So my ex informs me yesterday that he got a promotion at work and will be moved to the night shift. Then he says "so you will have to work with me on visits". I didn't say anything. But I got to thinking and I don't know if I want to change the schedule at all. I mean, if he's working when he has the girls now, he just gets a sitter, so why would it be any different? Plus, he lives with his girlfriend so Idk why she can't just watch them while he works, if its at night, theyre just gonna be sleeping anyway. When he and I were married, he worked rotating shifts and some were overnight and if his other kids were here, I was in charge of keeping them occupied and quiet while he slept, why can't the new girlfriend do the same? They have a kid together too so its not like she would be giving up a bunch of free time that doesnt exist.
I mean, I work, I get a sitter, I don't think its fair that some of these part time dads think its a rule that if they are working then they don't have to put in their parent time as well. There have been times where I have been sick or had an emergency and he has refused to take them or help me out in any way.
Plus if I change the visit schedule thats going to mess with my sitter situation as well. My sitter won't be happy if she gets cut more days because he wants them during the week or whenever is convenient for him. I can't risk losing her, the girls love her and she's the only one I can afford around here.
I'm just conflicted on what to do. We haven't discussed it yet but hes picking them up tomorrow night and I have a feeling its going to come up.
on Nov. 23, 2012 at 3:16 AM