I am feeling really crazy right now. Currently i am single but its because i broke up with my boyfiend just 2 days ago. I need advice bad. I cant turn to my family and talk to them beause they love him and they wont listen to me. I broke up with him because I think he has scared me away. We had only been togther 5 months and he has been telling me he loves me since the 3rd month. He as also been asking me if I wanted anymore kids. i already have 2 myself an d my youngest is only 2. He told me that he hasnt fell for anyone this fast or feels like he has with me. Not to mention he has mentioned repeatedly about us getting married like asap. He has proved himself, he does for me and my girls with no problem. My girls actually love him very much. I have tried explaining to him I'm not use to this, even before we got together I told him I wasnt looking for a boyfriend, but he kept asking, so i gave it a try and wouldnt be so bad but I dont like feeling like im under pressure from my family and him. They gave him their "blessing" about a month. It really feels like it happened too fast and it makes me look like the bad person because part of me wants out. Not sure what to do. Any advice?
If he's the right one then he'll respect your wishes and slow down. Do not give into anyone's pressure. This is your choice. Do what you feel is right for you when it comes to your relationship. Not what is right for him, your family or your children. This is about your happiness and love. Your safety, peace, desire, wants, needs, etc. The others are right: RED FLAG!
completely agree! sometimes, short term relationships work out... one girl i know- her parents met on friday and decided to get married on sunday. they've been together for 40 some years now! but they were both ready for the commitment.
if he loves you and RESPECTS you, he'll take it slow, as slow as you need him to. 3 months is such a short time. my past relationships never got abusive until 9 months in (all 3 of them, oddly enough! lol). they all proved themselves in the beginning, but after you get comfortable, people slip, they fail.... 3 months isnt enough to get comfortable
Quoting PetulaW:If he's the right one then he'll respect your wishes and slow down. Do not give into anyone's pressure. This is your choice. Do what you feel is right for you when it comes to your relationship. Not what is right for him, your family or your children. This is about your happiness and love. Your safety, peace, desire, wants, needs, etc. The others are right: RED FLAG!
didn't see this coming
- Num1PYT
on Nov. 25, 2012 at 6:57 AM