For my son to be of legal adult age - I know these are my emotions talking - his father. I don't know how to deal with him anymore. I know - another single mom with baby daddy issues.
If any of you knew me personally, you'd know that I try to keep the peace with this man so my son won't have to see any mess. It's already enough that his parents are in separate homes.
For YEARS I felt guilty and acted accordingly because I left him years ago (I was 16 when we met and we were preggo 3 months after we met). Anyway, I feel like (I say "I feel" because he doesn't feel like he does anything wrong) he treat me real rude. No, he doesn't cuss at me or has ever been physical. But he is inconsiderate and it's frustrating.
Prime example: Yes, he did text me Wednesday to let me know he wanted Tony to come to his house Friday. I told him that's fine but Tony had some stuff to do and he can come out to my area of town to pick him up. Okay. I don't hear from him all day today. I had to text him to see what happened. "Oh my bad, I got busy" So when were you going to tell me!!!? So I say 'ok that's fine, just let me know if you are coming so I can prepare.' 'Alright' is his response. This is 5 pm.
9 pm rolls around. Nothing. Who wants to be packing clothes at 9 pm? Not me? So I text him. He responds with 'I'll get him.' By then, that is not even the freaking point!!!!! Why was it too much to tell me earlier!? I couldve had Tony ready/etc. He has another 'baby mama' and I'm sure he treats her much better.
It's been a lot, and now I feel like I'm fussing for nothing; but dealing with him is a chore. Dealing with his family is a chore. I feel like they are 2% cordial because I am Tony's mother. But they don't care about me.
It's hard b/c I feel like I've tried to be nice. I know this is a he said she said.
If you have any encouragement, please share. My son is 12 right now, but 18 is a long way from now when you feel like you deal with the same b/s over and over.
Everytime I feel like we take one step foward, we take 3 back. What do I do? Please, what do I do? How do you handle your split family situation with a smile?
I do have a huge faith in God. But I am human and I am frustrated. I know we are going to get through this. Right now, emotions are talking...and I don't want it to affect Tony. It's not his fault and he shouldn't have to feel the brunt of it.