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pregnant, confused and alone.

Posted by on Nov. 29, 2012 at 11:38 PM
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Hey, my name is maria im 19 years old, I am 3 months pregnant and single. My boyfriend and I are no longer together. I need advice, I feel like I cant trust him or believe anything that he says. He likes to watch porn hide my back im not so sure how im suppose to feel about that. I cant make up my mind anything. He calls me a bitch and a hoe when ive only been with him. I dnt understand why this is happenin to me. I need a true friend who understands
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Shawna510
by on Nov. 29, 2012 at 11:41 PM
Oh sweet heart I'm really sorry to hear this. Please stay strong and lean on any and all support you may have from family and friends.
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mila19
by on Nov. 29, 2012 at 11:44 PM
I have no friends my family is there for me but im mostly by myself. This sucks so bad
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steviechick
by Gold Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 11:40 AM

Hi, Maria and welcome to the group.  Your bf is mentally abusing you.  Don't stand for it.  Stay away from him.  He has issues that you don't need right now.  Reach out to family and friends.  The only thing to understand is that you don't need this fiflth in your life. 

Mommyto2LilMen
by Tina on Nov. 30, 2012 at 11:41 AM
Hello and welcome. So sorry your are going through this.
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evilangel198431
by on Nov. 30, 2012 at 11:42 AM
Honey for one thing you should never let a man call you names. You can do better than that for yourself and your child


Quoting mila19:

I have no friends my family is there for me but im mostly by myself. This sucks so bad

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LauraMH
by Bronze Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 12:20 PM

You situation sounds so familiar. I was pregnant at 18 (DS born at 19) and that is how my relationship with ex began. The verbal abuse turned into physical abuse and I stayed with him for almost 10 years. Please do not stay in that type of relationship, they only get worse. Porn is a very common addiction among abusive and controlling men.

You should not be treated like that, ever. I know how it feels to feel alone, I lost all my friends (except one) due to my relationship and hid it all from my family, alienating myself from them. I felt alone and there is no worse feeling but you do not need him. You can do this on your own and you and your child will be better off without him. I am so sorry that you are being treated like that.

As far as not understanding why this is happening, that is all his doing. He is trying to confuse you and make you feel depended on him. It is all about control. You have value and he is devaluing you with his words and actions. You have done nothing wrong, he is using his words to control you and make you feel as if you are in the wrong.

I don't know the details of your relationship but I know abuse and control when I see it. I just want you to know that you are strong enough to do this without him. Lean on any family you have for support.

victoriahearts
by on Nov. 30, 2012 at 12:56 PM

I'm sorry, Maria but the best thing is to put a lot of space between you and him, for now he is just being disrespectful, or more so verbally abusive, you will never know what will come next if you stay. If you can't lean on friends and family because you feel you can't share, find someone , a profesionally maybe to discuss your feelings so that you can get stronger and try to move forward with your life. You need some peace and safety right now while you are pregnant so take care of yourself, put yourself before the feelings you have for your ex boyfriend.

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