I am not married to my BD. He moved to Florida from Virginia a week after my son was born. He stopped communicating with me, I found out through word of mouth. My son lives with me at my parent's house. I've been recovering from giving birth and my son and I have been going to doctors appointments. I've also been filing for food stamps, TANF, and child support since my BD has had nothing to do with my son nor has he helped with anything financially. I recently filed a motion of custody yesterday so that my son and I can move on. Today I received a summons for a court date. Apparently, my BD had come back to his parent's house for the holiday and must've also filed a motion of custody.
What I'm wondering is:
1. How can he file for custody if he's going to be living in Florida and I live in Virginia? It just doesn't make sense.
2. If he gains visitation rights at some point, do they have to be unsupervised visitation? I mean, my child is only 6 weeks old and my BD doesn't make very.. safe/smart descisions. I am really afraid of what might happen to my son if I can't be there with him.
3. I decided not to have my BD in the hospital with me when I was giving birth b/c he hadn't been supportive at all during the pregnancy. I needed to have a stress-free environment during that time and its a good thing I didn't have him there b/c the labor did not go well. After my son was born, he tried to see him but since my son was in the NICU and I was getting a blood transfusion, my mom intercepted him. She asked him why he was there and instead of him answering, his girlfriend yelled at my mother that they had a right to be there. My mom of course had them escorted out by security. He has not seen my son yet b/c when he emailed me asking if he could see him, I asked him why and he never responded. I have not heard from him since. Will this somehow look poorly on me to the judge?