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How would this work?

Posted by on Dec. 1, 2012 at 12:01 AM
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I am not married to my BD. He moved to Florida from Virginia a week after my son was born. He stopped communicating with me, I found out through word of mouth. My son lives with me at my parent's house. I've been recovering from giving birth and my son and I have been going to doctors appointments. I've also been filing for food stamps, TANF, and child support since my BD has had nothing to do with my son nor has he helped with anything financially. I recently filed a motion of custody yesterday so that my son and I can move on. Today I received a summons for a court date. Apparently, my BD had come back to his parent's house for the holiday and must've also filed a motion of custody.

What I'm wondering is:

1. How can he file for custody if he's going to be living in Florida and I live in Virginia? It just doesn't make sense.

2. If he gains visitation rights at some point, do they have to be unsupervised visitation? I mean, my child is only 6 weeks old and my BD doesn't make very.. safe/smart descisions. I am really afraid of what might happen to my son if I can't be there with him.

3. I decided not to have my BD in the hospital with me when I was giving birth b/c he hadn't been supportive at all during the pregnancy. I needed to have a stress-free environment during that time and its a good thing I didn't have him there b/c the labor did not go well. After my son was born, he tried to see him  but since my son was in the NICU and I was getting a blood transfusion, my mom intercepted him. She asked him why he was there and instead of him answering, his girlfriend yelled at my mother that they had a right to be there. My mom of course had them escorted out by security. He has not seen my son yet b/c when he emailed me asking if he could see him, I asked him why and he never responded. I have not heard from him since. Will this somehow look poorly on me to the judge?

by on Dec. 1, 2012 at 12:01 AM
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faerie75
by Ruby Member on Dec. 1, 2012 at 12:04 AM
Are you breast feeding? He can't have any longer than a few hours I so and i don't see how that is possible interstate.
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happymommy1105
by Gold Member on Dec. 1, 2012 at 12:32 AM
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as long as he files in the place where the child lives.....he can file for custody regardless of where he lives.

2. they are usually unsupervised unless you can prove in court he is a threat to the baby. but overnights usually don't start til after a certain age.

3. if he asked to see his child, you should let him. why would you ask him why?

its his child too and he has the right to see and be with baby too.
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Unole8386
by on Dec. 1, 2012 at 3:48 AM

Oh I know its his child and he has the right to be/see him. I've told him that I would love for him to be apart of our son's life and be a father to him. He just doesn't seem to want to. I asked him why b/c the entire time I was pregnant he showed no interest in the baby what so ever no matter how much I pleaded with him and no matter how many doctor appointments I invited him to. I made my entire pregnancy full of opportunities for him to be involved and he constantly blew them off so I honestly wanted to know why. It seemed as though he was only interested b/c his parents were. I never said he couldn't see my son, he just again didn't pursue it any further. I would think if he was so interested in seeing him that he would have said SOMETHING even if it was as simple as "I want to meet my son." but instead he said nothing and didn't contact me again after. He knows where I live, its only a minute down the road from him.  He could have come by anytime as well.

Quoting happymommy1105:

as long as he files in the place where the child lives.....he can file for custody regardless of where he lives.

2. they are usually unsupervised unless you can prove in court he is a threat to the baby. but overnights usually don't start til after a certain age.

3. if he asked to see his child, you should let him. why would you ask him why?

its his child too and he has the right to see and be with baby too.


Unole8386
by on Dec. 1, 2012 at 9:21 AM

Yes I am breastfeeding :)

Quoting faerie75:

Are you breast feeding? He can't have any longer than a few hours I so and i don't see how that is possible interstate.


Unole8386
by on Dec. 1, 2012 at 5:57 PM

BUMP!

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