How many of you are going through a transitional period with their SO's or exes? Transitional as in working out your personal relationship with your chid(s) father. I'm going through that right now. My ex is being a total jerkwad about actually being a father to our daughter. He's done everything he can thus far to be the biggest jerk possible. I've had to deal with this throughout our marriage. Working or trying to work with someone that is extremely difficult and very complex in personality. Someone who needed to be spoken to about the choices he made and continues to make. Idiot choices that effect your child's life. The same idiotic things that affected your marriage. I have been told that once you are divorced you will always have to deal with the ex. No matter what happens with your child(ren) and their relationship, as a mother and ex-wife you are always going to be pulled back into his life because of the choices he continues to make. You are always going to be a part of his family unless you are pushed away by them. I've been lucky to have great IL's. Still welcome in their home. There will always be a bond between us. I grew up in a divorced home. When my parents divorced my mom was no longer a part of my dad's family. She started a new life with my step-dad. She never spoke to my father. Different scenario from mine. My mom and dad divorced due to my dad's inability to provide well. My mom and I seemed to pick the same kind of man to marry. Big difference was that my dad never cheated on her. I never thought I would be divorced like my mom. I saw how sad she was knowing that we kids came from a broken home.
My ex and I no longer talk. If I ever talk to him I will end up exploding. I'm unable to talk to him about anything. He's made too many mistakes and continues to be a complete moron, lousy father and loser in life. I feel sorry for him. He could of had a decent life with me had he just been a decent provider and not chased after a co-worker. His own daughter won't speak to him. His own brother can't stand him. And his parents are heartbroken over what he's done to mess up his life.