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Parenting Plan?

Posted by on Dec. 20, 2012 at 7:53 AM
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Is it necessary to get a parenting plan set up if the paternity test hasn't been taken yet and child support has not yet contacted him? I have sole custody and at 1st he seemed to not be interested in being involved with the baby but is all of a sudden now requesting pics of her and willing to take paternity test. I just want to protect myself but she's 3 months old and the only time he's even seen our daughter was at the hospital. So confused...
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Mommyto2LilMen
by on Dec. 20, 2012 at 8:06 AM
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Not sure here is a bump.
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Musiq_Junkie
by on Dec. 20, 2012 at 9:07 AM
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Its not necessary but id reccommend it. By making a parenting plan u can take it 2 the child support office, both of u sign it in front of the caseworker. By him signing it hes automatically acknowledging paternity. That way yall dont have 2 go through a long drawn out court case. If u choose to do so be SPECIFIC in all u want done like what days & times visits will be, who baby will spend which holidays with, if & when ur allowed to modify the plan, etc.
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rocky_mtn_mama
by Bronze Member on Dec. 20, 2012 at 2:44 PM

I'm not sure either, but I think it's a good idea.

Quoting Musiq_Junkie:

Its not necessary but id reccommend it. By making a parenting plan u can take it 2 the child support office, both of u sign it in front of the caseworker. By him signing it hes automatically acknowledging paternity. That way yall dont have 2 go through a long drawn out court case. If u choose to do so be SPECIFIC in all u want done like what days & times visits will be, who baby will spend which holidays with, if & when ur allowed to modify the plan, etc.


Robsessed98
by on Dec. 20, 2012 at 3:40 PM
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It would make sense. If hes willing to take the test, he should be willing to sign a paternity affidavit and skip through to the visitation and support phase. It would speed up the process.
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elijahXmom
by on Dec. 20, 2012 at 4:35 PM
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necessary no but I would

PumpkinSpice8
by on Dec. 20, 2012 at 5:16 PM
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I would set one up. Men change their minds all the time.
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brieri
by on Dec. 20, 2012 at 10:51 PM

HI and welcome to he group 

When he takes  a paternity test is when you set up the parenting plan.

LifeCafe42
by on Dec. 21, 2012 at 8:44 AM
Welcome!
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gradenu
by on Dec. 21, 2012 at 9:23 AM
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Quoting Musiq_Junkie:

Its not necessary but id reccommend it. By making a parenting plan u can take it 2 the child support office, both of u sign it in front of the caseworker. By him signing it hes automatically acknowledging paternity. That way yall dont have 2 go through a long drawn out court case. If u choose to do so be SPECIFIC in all u want done like what days & times visits will be, who baby will spend which holidays with, if & when ur allowed to modify the plan, etc.


This - and also try to think ahead, as hard as that might be.  In this I mean that I would put in some sort of review of the terms at certain ages or circumstances.  Things change and I see so many people that don't think of that and then end up with a mess a few years later.  One of the major issues I've seen is when a few years later one parent or the other moves to a different town or state.

lisamamalisa
by on Dec. 21, 2012 at 10:17 AM
Thank you, knowing that makes me feel much better! First time Mommy :)


Quoting Musiq_Junkie:

Its not necessary but id reccommend it. By making a parenting plan u can take it 2 the child support office, both of u sign it in front of the caseworker. By him signing it hes automatically acknowledging paternity. That way yall dont have 2 go through a long drawn out court case. If u choose to do so be SPECIFIC in all u want done like what days & times visits will be, who baby will spend which holidays with, if & when ur allowed to modify the plan, etc.

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