So, my son is 7 months old and his father has decided with certainty he is not going to be involved. At all. He is moving out of state soon as well. I'm fine with that and respect his decision. Not everyone is cut out to be a dad or wants to be.
Back when my son was 4 months old, we had a trial period as a "family". I have a few pictures I took at that time of my son and his father (sperm donor I guess).
After he made his decision that this wasn't for him, I moved on and threw away all the items I had saved from our relationship and basically got rid of all the reminders of him. I'm finally over it.
I'm just not sure about these four pictures. Should I save them? Or delete them?
What would you do?
Just curious what everyone else would do in this situation.
Quoting January1964:
Save them for your son.
That is where I'm conflicted.
The photos make it look like his father actually cared and enjoyed being around my son. I'm afraid showing them to him when he gets older will make him more confused.
Quoting Ridingsolo:
Quoting January1964:
Save them for your son.
That is where I'm conflicted.The photos make it look like his father actually cared and enjoyed being around my son. I'm afraid showing them to him when he gets older will make him more confused.
Save them for when he asks about his father. Or, for when you feel he's old enough to understand better. He will be curious to see what his dad looked like. If you throw them out, you have no chance to show your son.
i'd save them just so at some point you do have something to show ds if he asks one day down the road about him.
I agree that you should save them. Your son will most likely want to see who is father was at son point in his life. Just bc the pictures show that he "looks" like a good father, you will still be able to talk to your son about it when he asks. I think you would regret it if you got rid of them.
Quoting GoldenLinds:
Save them. One day he will need to know that even if he didn't want to be a father he didn't hate him and those pictures will go a long way in healing him. It's complicated and the fact that you preserved thIs for him will make a huge impact. Even if you never share them with your son you won't have to regret not being able to offer them to him.
Thanks, that's a very good point that I hadn't thought of - it will be great to show ds that his father didn't have anything against him personally. Didn't even think of that. The pictures will show someone who cared in some capacity, so maybe that is a good thing.
Finally tears of happiness.
- Ridingsolo
on Jan. 1, 2013 at 6:31 AM