Okay so I here I go I need a little advice on what to do and how to go about it all.
I'm the single mother of two boys, their dad has split custody of them with me being the primary parent. He only pays $400 in child support at the moment which I was granted $784. We agreed that he would pay $400 through military allotment until the divorce was finalized and it went through child support and the court. We are now offically divorced and waiting on child support to get everything done, but he is currantly deployed at the moment so I don't know if that will affect anything at all. We also agreed on $400 cause I didn't want to argue with him over the amount, he said he wouldn't be able to support himself or pay off the credit cards, trailblazer, or the furniture we went out and got. So I settled with $400, well after he deployed he messaged me and told me that he was going to go out and buy himself a BRAND NEW truck when he gets back from deployment his excuse for doing this is the trailblazer is to small for him, I find that not a good enough excuse.
So I have decided to take him to court when he gets home. I have thought about it and the way I see it is if he can afford a brand new truck he should be able to afford my child support for the boys. I have also decided to go and take full custody of the boys, the reason for this is that he hardly ever sees them when he is home and he only lives 6 hours away. My oldest is scared to death of him, will not talk to him on cam, won't go with him or anything etc. He had only seen them for a whole 4 hours the whole two weeks he was home in October. We had split the end of June and he deployed in November. He does not try calling them from over seas when he gets a chance nor does he hardly ask about them at all. I haven't heard from him in about two weeks and at this moment they are not busy over there yet. I know this cause of friends that have husbands deployed with him.
So my question on this is whats the best way of going about this? The best way of finding an attorney fairly cheap cause at the moment I don't have a bunch of money just laying around.
Okay now a couple more questions for you ladies.
If you was a stay at home mommy when you became a single mommy, how did you go about finding a job? How did you go about finding housing? I'm applying for HUD on the 9th and hopefully that works out, I'm also considering going back to school in February to work on my GED then go to college after I obtain my GED.
Sorry its so long and thanks in advance.