Son joined Army - came home for break for 12 days and spent 1 day with me
i head that single mothers have a harder time letting older children go and i believe it.
my son moved when he was 16 to his dads, well dad's mom's really. they live on same property but she is more responsible. anyway, my son hasn't been that close to me since he moved. he joined the army a few months ago and just came home for break for christmas. he spent a total of 24 hours with me. he lives an hour from here. said he would see me before he left and didn't. i'm so sad about it. he says it's because he's older (he's 19) but i know lots of kids who are this age and have close relationships with their moms.
his dad was an alcoholic unti a few months ago and was never there for my son. he has alot of anger built over it but seems to take it out on me. he has a gf and always has drama with her cause he's so disrespectul. i don' tknow what to say to him to make him understand how much he hurts me. he doesn't seem to care. he text me today on his way back and said i'm too mushy and smother him. and he saw me plenty while he was home. i don't smother him. i asked to go see him twice and he said no he was trying to win his gf back. i don't even want to write him the rest of time he is in basic training because of how he treated me while he was here. i got him some really nice gifts for christmas and he got me nothing. he was in a horrible mood because of his gf and then left right after he opened his gifts. ugh
is this normal teenage boy behavior or not? i'm just hurt and mad and wondered what i did wrong? i brought him up to be loving and respectful.