I am a single mom with two boys. my oldest is two and my youngest is one. My husband left me for another women going on almost two years now. We haven't spoken or seen each other in about a year now, and he will not sign the papers I sent to him. I was trying to file for divorce on my own because I can not afford to pay all the money that attorneys ask for. What should I do?
Take him to court again, I can't remember what it's called but you can file a motion for him to give you an answer on the divorce, if he doesn't the court will in turn issue a judgement in the case, after a period of time after the judgement is entered and he doesn't do anything to oppose it, the judge will grant you a divorce at least that is how I have seen it worked in NY. If he does come to court to oppose it, you can ask the judge for meditation to work our the details for the divorce, and once you have him court it "should" be a little easier to iron on points in the divorce. But I hope you have him on child support already, once you filed for divorce you were entitled to get some financial assistance from him, good luck hon. Best advice is try to make friends with the clerk at family court , they should be able to give him some advice on what paperwork to file out to get this divorce moving.
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Call the police and have him arrrested. 
This sounds like great advice! Good luck!
Quoting victoriahearts:
Take him to court again, I can't remember what it's called but you can file a motion for him to give you an answer on the divorce, if he doesn't the court will in turn issue a judgement in the case, after a period of time after the judgement is entered and he doesn't do anything to oppose it, the judge will grant you a divorce at least that is how I have seen it worked in NY. If he does come to court to oppose it, you can ask the judge for meditation to work our the details for the divorce, and once you have him court it "should" be a little easier to iron on points in the divorce. But I hope you have him on child support already, once you filed for divorce you were entitled to get some financial assistance from him, good luck hon. Best advice is try to make friends with the clerk at family court , they should be able to give him some advice on what paperwork to file out to get this divorce moving.
Been divorced myself for just over a year. Ex cheated on me, too. Parents gave me the funds to acquire an attorney. Good thing for that. I'm now dealing with the Chapter 7 filing deadbeat. Forced him back to court (next month) for nonpayment of divorce settlement funds. Real loser. Great advice from Victoria.
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There are resources that many states provide for help.Also call united way and ask for info.Also MHMR might have some resources.When I filed I went to the teacher's credit union and deposited a little money and got a small loan.When you get this far part of your settlement is for your ex to pay your legal bills.So join a credit union where you live.
File a motion for the judge to compel him to sign the papers. After a certain amount of time, the divorce can be granted even without the ex's signature.
My daughter doesn't like my boyfriend.
- bstlovedao
on Jan. 3, 2013 at 11:10 AM