My stbx and I can't agree on a visitation schedule. He says he doesn't want to be a weekend dad (I think its really about limiting CS). I feel our kids should be home with me on school nights since I'm better at keeping a consistent evening routine. I also make sure my DS completes his homework.
I work Mon-Thurs 8a-5p. Stbx is a firefighter and does shift work...7a-7a then off for 72 hours. The days he works changes from week to week, month to month. He wants 2 overnights per week that will always change, sometimes it will be a Sun & Mon or Wed & Thurs nights, whenever...no consistency. I want him to have 3 weekends per month or EOWE. My DS is 6 and DD is 4. Right now, stbx randomly picks them up from aftercare before I get there and will keep them for 1 or 2 nights. Sometimes he informs by email the day before or the day of that he's going to get them. So I'll get to my DS's school to pick her up and she's not there. I don't have the kind of job where I can leave early and I don't want to play this game...who can get to the kids first.
Obviously, we don't have a temporary custody agreement. We have a scheduling conference next month to meet with a mediator and to determine our divorce court date. We both have lawyers and we just can't agree on anything...custody, property, etc.
Any suggestions on an arrangement that could work for young children? What is your visitation like? I want my kids to know where they will be on a daily basis.