I'm new to the site and group and in desperate need of advice. I was married last year April after I found out I was pregnant. At the time My ex and I were already engaged to be married and I was starting to have second thoughts. After a hurriedly telling both our families we were married, mostly so I could get health insurance coverage through his job ascend also because he didn't want a "Bastard child". He and his family are very conservative on some matters. We decided we had time to figure things out such as where we would live and what we wanted to do for our child. The same weekend we were married he moved into my parents house without asking anyone and proceeded to take over my life and every decision that needed to be made. Many problems arose and we split 10 days later. I asked for space and he went off the deep end calling me a liar and cheater and then took to harassing my friends and family about me when I refused to speak to him. We are still legally married. I have filed for divorce in December before my DD was born. He was emotionally, mentally and starting to become physically abusive towards me just never we split. He now wants to be a part of my child's life. We haven't gone to meditation and the divorce is waiting on his side to send their information to thcourts. In the mean time he is demanding to see DD more. His work schedule doesn't really go along with DD. By the time he's done and able to make it over its time for me to start her bedtime routine. I'm incredibly stressed out and scared. I don't want to deny him time with her but I don't think it makes sense for him to come over when she's sleeping. He can always come spend time with her on his two days off. Since we have no formal agreement I need advice on what to do or what other mom's have done. I don't want to mess this up for me later when we do go to court later. I'm starting to feel like I'm being bullied by him again.
on Jan. 5, 2013 at 6:49 PM