Whenever I take DS to a birthday party or a play date where the kids' father is involved he always brings up his dad and now DD is starting to talk about daddy, but I think it is just the word I don't believe she gets the whole dad thing. They haven't heard from him in over a year and it is better that way. I have explained to DS before that his dad is chosing not to be in his life and that he knows how to contact us if he ever wants to, but that I don't have a way to contact his dad, which is true. Even if his dad deleted my number his mom has it and she has my e-mail.
After we go to a play date or birthday party DS will start talking about his dad and when ever we see an ambulance he says "I think my Daddy is dead." I don't want him to grow up believing in a lie, I want him to know the truth, which is that his dad is chosing not to see him. He even told Santa that his dad didn't want to see him. Broke my heart. He is going to be 5 on monday, on his fourth birthday and DD's 1st I was told not to invite them to their parties. I don't know what to tell him or how to help him.