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Am I the ONLY single mom that does not....

Have a social LIFE!

Im aware that everyones situation may vary but...

I sometimes feel like Im the only mother that does not have a social life! LOL Facebook, etc and even just talking to my friends have kids and they are still going out almost every weekend.... I havent gone out clubbin, bar-hopping or even on a date in like oh... 3 years...

Im fully aware that my son comes first before anything (then me) but sometimes I'd like to have an adult night...

His 'father' is not in the picture so no help there... meh!

Don't let no one steal your joy!!! Have a good day! Jennifer

by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 8:57 AM
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by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 12:51 PM

My Dear,

I have such difficult situations and most of them start in my head and wallet concerning a social life!! I don't go to clubs anymore or drink because that was my past and did it over the top!! Got it oout of my system. I have four kids, all five years apart literally and my two last ones are 14 and 9 and I am 46 and they are exhausting. I say that because my oldest is 24, and still lives with me with her boyfriend of seven years and their two kids!!!  I am overweight, live on SSD and I used to have gorgeous teeth that have been attacked, ravaged by the meds for my physical issues!! I am awaiting fake teeth, OMG, at 46 yrs old!! I have been divorced ten years now and havent had sex for that long because the four past men I met over the ten year span were not worth it!! So I am celebate now!! I used to be a highly sexual pretty woman. I am climbing out of my rut but it is tough!!banging head into wall

by Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 1:07 PM
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I at times feel alone too.  Even though people reach out to me for me to be their friend, I feel like I have nothing in common with people anymore, because I like to do everything, except go to bars/nightclubs anymore.  Most people go to bars/nightclubs or casinos for entertainment.  Not trying to  judge anybody that does go to bars/nightclubs, it's just it's not my cup of tea anymore.  I'd rather go to an amusement park, go on a road trip, etc.  So, I know how you feel about being alone. 

by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 1:08 PM

 up until recently i had to go out of state to visit my friend to have a social life, i was just unmotivated to meet people and i am a home body, but now i have a boyfriend and we usually just stay in or go out to dinner and about once a month i hang out with his friends.

by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 1:08 PM
Sadly or maybe not sadly cafemom and who I can still text while taking care of my DD has become my single life and I really don't mind in the slightest. I'm happy with my DD. But everyone is different! You shouldn't feel bad if you need sometime out. Do you have any other mom friends that wwould be able to help you out?
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by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 1:21 PM

My social life consists of hanging out with my DD and two friends.  That's truly pathetic when you think about it.  I have friends on FB because of a mommy network I belong to and the acquaintances I've made through the horse world (thru my DD).  Since my divorce, I've been a lone a lot.  I come home to my dog and turn on the tv to keep me company.  I've gone running a few times but with the weather it's not been the best time of year to do so.  I've joined a camera club but they meet too far away and one day a week at 9 am when I'm at work.  I guess life could be worse.  I could still be married to the ex!

by Ruby Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 3:05 PM
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 idk. i always had an active social life but i lived near my parents and their dad was around and they were supportive. i moved away when they were old enough for me to be social without always needing a sitter as well.

i really have no apologies fopr being social. i dont feel i need to explain to the "i always stay home w my kids cuz i want to! " peanut gallery. i love my kids. i spent qt with them and raised them. but i did not want to be home with them 24/7. lol

by Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 3:08 PM
No way. I have no life outside of work and my son. I deleted my facebook a few days ago because I got tired of seeing all my friends posts about their awesome weekends. I'm only 25 but feel like a 50 yr old lady. Very depressing at times.
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by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 3:08 PM

Don't feel alone.  The truly best way to find a social life is finding something you like to do, such as a hobby and get involved with others.

by Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 3:10 PM
This! But I recently reconnected with an old flame and its giving me a different view on life. I feel like im wasting my life away. My son comes first and always will but I need adult company also. His father never takes him so its all on me.

Quoting thatsamorex2:

I'm single and I don't hardly ever go out. If I do its with a friend to dinner and a movie.I've never been into parties or the bar scene. I'm quite happy with my simple little family life of just me and my two kids.

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by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 3:28 PM
As a single mom, or a mom in general taking care of yourself is an important step to taking care of your children. The more balanced you make your life the easier it is to handle stress and all the crap life throws at you.

I make a habit of at least one night out a week. Whether its a date, having a drink with a friend or even spending the evening on my own.

And yes, I do always think of my children. It's impossible not to.
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