I'll start of fby saying I am not without a heart, but this is not my problem. I have sympathy for the situation but not the people. My Ex informed me a little over a month ago that the woman he has been with for 7 months is pregnant (5 months). Now in my DS (age 5) life, BF has not contributed very much as a father or a partner when we were together. Also he has the need to tell me information on his personal life which I have no interest in, but he often gets side tracked in our conversations reguarding our son.
The new GF has health issues and I'm not sure weather this baby is a joyful occasion for her, but I have let BF know that the lack of support and being a father for the 1 he already has that this is the 2nd most irresponsible thing he has done. (Yes I went there and he does not disagree with what I said, this wasn't a planned pregnacy I take from him). Any who the GF has health issues and is high risk in her pregnancy going to the doctor I've been told 3-4 times a week and has been that way for awhile now on top of other problems with diabetes.
My question is this, my DS was here before her and may be here after her as BF is showing signs of bailing on her. He has not been the best father but my DS loves him and wants to spend time with him, BF being with GF has slowed down these visits and it has been Christmas Eve since he has seen his son. Now weather it be her or something else as it has been in the past I will always hear the excuse on why he didn't show, call or visit. When is enough enough and how did you handle it?? I am looking to go for primary/sole custody in the next coupld months and will leave it up to him to file for the type of visitation he wants, but I am tired of having to have his OK on legal issues that I do want to do with our child (cruise, homeschool - why do I need to have his OK to do any of these things if he is not an active part or a $ providing part??) and I am probably as hard as they come as a BM, but then again I have to do what is best for my child and our life since he chooses not to be a regular part in any area emotional, finically, supportative.
Tired & Crazy Mom of 2 BOYS