Single mom of a 10 yr old - dating same person for 8 yrs - NEED ADVICE
Hello fellow single mothers! I need some advice. I have been with my current boyfriend for 8 yrs, we do not live together and in fact live about an hour from eachother. Obviously not engaged either. I have a 10 yr old daughter that is not his. He manages to come over once during the week and sometimes on weekends. We ( or I, depending on if she is at her dads that weekend) will sometimes go there as well to see eachother. The problem i'm having lately is I really want to move this forward and start a family! He says he does too but is not doing anything to make this happen. Obviously I cannot move there but he is doing nothing to move here. He says he has a plan but doesn't want to get my hopes up until he has it all figured out. So I have no idea what this plan is. That is really starting to bother me. Then today, he tells me he got tickets to a basketball game ( he is supposed to come over this evening) and so he is not coming over and will be going to that instead. This means he will not see my daughter for another whole week. He can't see her this weekned cuase she will be at her dads. I feel like this should bother him? It sure does bother me! I realize she is not his child but I also think that her as well as I are being held secondary to everything else in his life. He 9 yrs older than me too so I am surprised that his priorities aren't positioned a little better! HELP! I need some advice. I am 28 yrs old, he is 37 - When I first started dating him I feel like I accepted this better but as I'm getting older its beginning to feel like i'm possibly wasting time. Thank you for reading!!