Ok ladies, any help/opinions/whateva will be greatly appreciated. So my son is now 4 months old and his father still wants nothing to do with him. Admittedly it would be incredibly difficult for us to split custody or whatever. We met while attending Universal Technical Institute in Pennsylvania. He's from Idaho and I'm from Virginia. I stayed at school until I was 36 weeks then moved back in with my Mom in Virginia. The father is, currently, still in Pennsylvania and its about an 8 hour drive, one way. He, however, finishes school in about 6 weeks and will be moving back Meridian, Idaho once he graduates. This is approximately a 33 hour drive and at least 6 hour flight away from his son. He was adopted and I don't believe he ever met his birth parents, but had a very close relationship with his adoptive father. I also had a very close relationship with my father. I am currently still single and not planning on changing that any time soon, though you never know I suppose. The father, however, has a girlfriend now. I'm not looking for a relationship with him, I just don't want my son to grow up without a father. Especially knowing how crucial my father was in my life. In addition, I have 3 months of school left before I can graduate and am planning to go back soon which will make getting together with his father even more difficult. I just don't know what to do or say to his father. I also have no clue what I'm supposed to tell my son when he asks. I don't want to lie to my son and say his father is dead or something but I also don't want to tell him that his father didn't want anything to do with him. We didn't date for very long and I didn't know I was pregnant until after we went our seperate ways. He doesn't pay child support or anything. He hasn't even talked to me since I left Pennsylvania, despite my efforts to include him. I send him messages after the baby's dr's appointments to let him know how things are going. I am just completely at a loss here and have no one around here to turn to.