Parent 1: You know, the kids are sick. I was wondering if you want the boys tonight? All four are sick with the flu and I cannot hold them all at once. I know that they would have more one on one attention with you since you have family to help you. Would you be willing to meet tonight?
Thank you everyone. I thought so too on every point made.
For clarification: All of the kids are babies (infant, toddler and two preschoolers). Parent 1 was asking parent 2 to take the toddler and 2 preschoolers, but not the infant. Parent 2 had a party to go to and wouldn't be able to leave party until after 11 at night. Parent 2's parents house is where all of the boys go to for visitation since parent 2 doesn't want children in his house and doesn't actually want to care for children. The preschoolers are special needs and the older one needs to be watched very carefully when ill because of medical problems. Parent 1 was also ill and hadn't slept for three days by the time the message was sent. The parents live 2 and half hour apart. Parent 2, before this conversation happened, said that visitation would still happen or parent 1 would be brought to court for contempt. Since visitation was going to happen anyway, parent 1 thought it would be helpful if there were more adults to help with the sick kids. Parent 2's household consists of four adults and a teen on visitation weekends. Parent 1 has no family or friends who can help since they had moved to where parent 2's family lives and away from parent 1's family and friends. Parent 1 was not trying to pawn the kids off. Parent 2 hasn't even seen the infant or the toddler for four weeks and had returned the preschoolers early from last visitation due to a party the parent "needed" to attend. Parent 1 was just asking for help in the only way parent 1 knew how to.
Thank you for the insight, though. Everyone is right. Parent 1 needed to just suck it up and deal with it. This was the first time parent 1 has ever asked parent 2 to help with the kids. This will also be the last time.
Quoting Kenre:Thank you everyone. I thought so too on every point made.
For clarification: All of the kids are babies (infant, toddler and two preschoolers). Parent 1 was asking parent 2 to take the toddler and 2 preschoolers, but not the infant. Parent 2 had a party to go to and wouldn't be able to leave party until after 11 at night. Parent 2's parents house is where all of the boys go to for visitation since parent 2 doesn't want children in his house and doesn't actually want to care for children. The preschoolers are special needs and the older one needs to be watched very carefully when ill because of medical problems. Parent 1 was also ill and hadn't slept for three days by the time the message was sent. The parents live 2 and half hour apart. Parent 2, before this conversation happened, said that visitation would still happen or parent 1 would be brought to court for contempt. Since visitation was going to happen anyway, parent 1 thought it would be helpful if there were more adults to help with the sick kids. Parent 2's household consists of four adults and a teen on visitation weekends. Parent 1 has no family or friends who can help since they had moved to where parent 2's family lives and away from parent 1's family and friends. Parent 1 was not trying to pawn the kids off. Parent 2 hasn't even seen the infant or the toddler for four weeks and had returned the preschoolers early from last visitation due to a party the parent "needed" to attend. Parent 1 was just asking for help in the only way parent 1 knew how to.
Thank you for the insight, though. Everyone is right. Parent 1 needed to just suck it up and deal with it. This was the first time parent 1 has ever asked parent 2 to help with the kids. This will also be the last time.
Quoting Kenre:Thank you everyone. I thought so too on every point made.
For clarification: All of the kids are babies (infant, toddler and two preschoolers). Parent 1 was asking parent 2 to take the toddler and 2 preschoolers, but not the infant. Parent 2 had a party to go to and wouldn't be able to leave party until after 11 at night. Parent 2's parents house is where all of the boys go to for visitation since parent 2 doesn't want children in his house and doesn't actually want to care for children. The preschoolers are special needs and the older one needs to be watched very carefully when ill because of medical problems. Parent 1 was also ill and hadn't slept for three days by the time the message was sent. The parents live 2 and half hour apart. Parent 2, before this conversation happened, said that visitation would still happen or parent 1 would be brought to court for contempt. Since visitation was going to happen anyway, parent 1 thought it would be helpful if there were more adults to help with the sick kids. Parent 2's household consists of four adults and a teen on visitation weekends. Parent 1 has no family or friends who can help since they had moved to where parent 2's family lives and away from parent 1's family and friends. Parent 1 was not trying to pawn the kids off. Parent 2 hasn't even seen the infant or the toddler for four weeks and had returned the preschoolers early from last visitation due to a party the parent "needed" to attend. Parent 1 was just asking for help in the only way parent 1 knew how to.
Thank you for the insight, though. Everyone is right. Parent 1 needed to just suck it up and deal with it. This was the first time parent 1 has ever asked parent 2 to help with the kids. This will also be the last time.
well... he offered to come get them late that night. since it was a special problem maybe you should have considered taking his offer. Or maybe he could have come to stay w u at your house to help u out. odd as it sounds being a parent sometimes involves you helping the other parent be a better parent. I have no idea what I just said, sorry, guess I'm too tired to be posting. goodnight!
expectations of the other parent participating more then they are makes the other parent crazy
Quoting LifeCafe42:
1 kid with the flu is tough I can't imagine 4
hugs mama.....
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- Kenre
on Jan. 11, 2013 at 9:39 PM