So usually my ex dh and i get along fairly well. We share custody of our 2 boys who are 8 and 6. It's hard to share sometimes. We have no official schedule. The schedule we generally go by is this (sorry it's complicated but trying to explain well so you have the full story):
Mon: i pick them up from school and keep overnight
Tues: i drop off at school then pick up from school. their dad picks up at 6:30ish.
Wed: he drops them off at school. i pick up from school and keep until church. he picks up from chuch and keeps overnight
thurs: he drops them off at schoool. i pick up from school and keep overnight
fri: i drop off and pick up from school and keep overnight
sat: he picks them up about 4 and keeps overnight
sun: he keeps all day
mon: he drops off at school and it starts all over again
The last couple of months i've felt like this schedule is unfair. He has them 4 nights a week while i only get them 3. His response: tough shit.
This week i had a baby shower i needed to go to on fri (so it would be best if i didn't take the boys) and the boys have a birthday party on my side of the family to go to on sunday so i asked their dad if we could trade fri for sun for those 2 events. he said yes. we agreed to this weeks ago. apparently he was under the impression he would take them fri evening and keep them until the birthday party sunday. this gyps me out of a whole day (today) from my kids. i feel shorted on top of already feeling shorted. his response: TOUGH SHIT. i feel like he manipulated me out of time with my kids.
for the sake of keeping peace should i just say oh well? i tried sticking up for myself already but i have no ground to stand on. he said he already had plans for today and if i took them today then i couldn't have them tomorrow. i told him the reason i want them tomorrow is so they can go to the birthday party. that would be unfair to them. then he had the nerve to tell me i dont ever think of the kids, only me and what's best for me.
idk, what do you ladies think? am i being manipulated or just looking too much into things?