I am new to this site! I am Jasmine. I am 26 and a single mom of 3 kiddos. I have 2 boys and 1 girl. I really need advice! I am stressing myself out to the point I am getting sick. My youngest is 2 and she has a different father than my two boys. I recently filed for child support for her because her father is not in the picture at all. I have been financially handling everything from when I had my daughter until now. Her father has bought diapers twice in her life! Nothing else. He never contacts me to get her or check on her. I have tried for 2 years to get him to be a father. Well at the end of the month is our child support hearing. I have not spoken to him in 3 months as he has not seen my daughter in 5 months.
I am so nervous to go to court!! I recently lost my job in oct. So I had to move back in with my parents. I don't pay any bills because I don't have a job. I do get unemployment but on like 500 a month and I use that for my sons school tuition for my son to go to school and my cell bill and gas to put in my car. Plus neccessities I need for me and the kids. Will that make me look bad in front of the Judge that I am not working? Will the judge base the payments on my current living situation? Or will he base it off of my living expenses when i filed? If I had a job I would still be in my own place. My rent before was 732 a month plus all utilities. Plus I still had school tuition, gas for car, cell phone and all neccessities needed for me and the kids. Also my mom has always babysat for me free because I couldn't afford daycare for my daughter. Should I tell the judge that? Should I take a print out from the daycare I want to put her in so that the judge knows how much I would be paying if I had the money?
I am also asking for back child support for the last 2 years! Will the judge base the payments off of my having 2 other children and me having expenses for them also? Not for him to cover but so the judge knows the income I do bring in when I'm working has to be split amongst 3 children and myself.
What other items should I take? My daughter has Medicaid (the state insurance) but i would rather her be on another insurance. Should I talk with a insurance agent and get a print off of what it would cost for her? Will the judge even take that? What other questions will the judge ask? I am so stressed out! Please help! Thanks oh I am about to start a technical degree in march and tuition has To be paid if full when I start..should I bring the information for that as well? Sorry so long!!!! Thanks!