I texted my ex today, letting him know how my doctor's appt went....I'm 22 weeks pregnant and he broke things off when I was about 12 weeks along. He only replied with, "yeah" and "ok." He never takes the initiative to ask how I'm doing or feeling....never seems interested, but for some reason I keep trying to reach out.
I'm having such a hard time letting him go...Why does it have to be so hard? Sometimes I wonder if the pain will ever really go away, especially since I'm going to have his child. Sorry for venting my sad story, but I get my hopes up every time I try to contact him. And every time, it ends up with me being broken hearted.
I know it is difficult but right now you have to try to stay strong and do what is best for you and the baby. You can continue to keep him updated but just dont get your expectations up to high. There are many possible outcomes for what could happen in the future but for now it is all about you and baby.
ok... 1. your ex is a total douche. He is consistently showing you this. BELIEVE HIM and act accordingly.
2. He is going to start getting major pressure from everyone around him when the baby gets here to be involved. Decide how you are going to handle that now. Have you spoken with a lawyer?
3. Stop contacting him. I know this is hard, and it hurts, but you keep leaving yourself wide open for him to hurt you, and you are letting him. You need to save your own life and sanity. Your focus now needs to be protecting this baby. If this is how he is treating you and how immature he is handling things, what kind of parent do you think he will be?
Cut him out, focus on you and plan for the next steps. Put a plan for custody, support etc. in place NOW, that way when baby gets here you can focus on the important stuff.. like snuggling a cute adorable squishy newborn! You do not want to have to bring a newborn to court with you to get this crap hammered out!
I would restrict contact with just facts about the child. So, I wouldn't put things that are about you....just things that are about the child...ie. when the appt is, and then what the doctor says about the baby. If he doesn't make the effort...you want to know that now...
As the previous post said...you have to protect your child and yourself.....its not going to be easy, but I hope you have a great support system with friends and family.
good luck.
I have spoken with a laywer, and all the father wants is MONTHLY visitation....what kind of relationship does he expect by coming once a month?? We meet next month to fill our paperwork and then will file it once the baby is born. I've tried to stop texting, but after a couple of weeks I think that maybe he just needed space...everytime I try though, it's short and never extended on his part.
I just don't get it....how can someone say they love you one day, and the next drop everything? I thought he was the one--we even talked about getting married before I found out I was pregnant. It's so lonely when the "one" is suddenly gone.
He doesnt desurve you at all.... if he choose to leave, let him.
I couldn't have said it better.....take it from someone who spent years doing the back and forth relationship crap with a man who could care less and showed me. It's not a good thing to look back at wasted years.
Quoting Hellopitty:
ok... 1. your ex is a total douche. He is consistently showing you this. BELIEVE HIM and act accordingly.
2. He is going to start getting major pressure from everyone around him when the baby gets here to be involved. Decide how you are going to handle that now. Have you spoken with a lawyer?
3. Stop contacting him. I know this is hard, and it hurts, but you keep leaving yourself wide open for him to hurt you, and you are letting him. You need to save your own life and sanity. Your focus now needs to be protecting this baby. If this is how he is treating you and how immature he is handling things, what kind of parent do you think he will be?
Cut him out, focus on you and plan for the next steps. Put a plan for custody, support etc. in place NOW, that way when baby gets here you can focus on the important stuff.. like snuggling a cute adorable squishy newborn! You do not want to have to bring a newborn to court with you to get this crap hammered out!
Finally tears of happiness.
- flgirl12
on Jan. 15, 2013 at 9:49 PM