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Divorce and changing last names

Posted by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 11:04 PM
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I'm filling out my divorce papers, we are filing a joint petition for divorce. We have two kids, a 5 year old girl and a 3 year old boy. I'm trying to decide I I want to change my last name... Can I get some opinions?
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mhaney03
by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 11:08 PM
I didnt. Its the kids last name too.
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mhaney03
by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 11:09 PM
Not to mention, its a pain to change everything back. And it pisses his friends and family off.
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Pessema
by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 11:11 PM

I would & I've sat through many court days. Most (that I viewed) did get their name changed. My mother didn't so she would have the same name as her other 2 kids, so I guess it all depends on how important that is to you.

Lurion
by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 11:16 PM

I always used both last names during the marriage, although I never legally changed it. 

Now I usually just use my maiden name in everyday life. But I admit I still use the hyphenated name when I'm on "mommy duty" at school, etc. 'cause I think it makes my kids feel better. 

Nena70
by on Jan. 21, 2013 at 12:40 AM

Keep your name like your kids....

raegan1221
by Raegan on Jan. 21, 2013 at 12:43 AM
I changed mine back to my maiden name.
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raegan1221
by Raegan on Jan. 21, 2013 at 12:45 AM
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I don't think it says any more or less of you to go back to your maiden name. It's never bothered my son that our names are different.
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conniejo75
by Bronze Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 2:21 AM
I changed it back. I have never had issue having different last name as my kids. A lot of families have different names nowadays. Also, it may be your child's name but when you get serious with a new guy... what if you remarry? I have also seen husbands petition court to force wife to go back ti maiden name. And yes a judge will grant it in most cases since it is the husband's name... and you got it only due to marriage.
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just4ds10ee
by Bronze Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 9:45 AM

I did not ... so that my duaghter and I still have same last name...also I have so many people/organizations to notify of a name change ...just did not want to go through the hassle...

Mommyto2LilMen
by Tina on Jan. 21, 2013 at 9:52 AM
I kept my married name mainly for the sake of the kids, knowing that if I e er marry again I will have a different last name as them.....and honestly as much as I hate bearing my exes last name, I hate thr thought of having a different last name as my kids.
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