Eh, the title is slightly misleading. I am officially a single mother, i have been doing everything on my own since my son was born. and yet somehow im having a hard time dealing with this.
background before i ask my advice or just helpful encouraging words from anyone else who has been through this.
I had my son in august 2011. His father and I have not really been happy with each other in a long time. but everytime i mentioned giving up he always found a way to stick around not leave and "try to work on things" its hard we are young. im 23, he just turned 25. now. since we have been together. he has had i kid you not ladies 25jobs! our biggest issue. well that and he smokes weed. i do not smoke or do drugs of any kind. he does.
the past oh three weeks or so he has been spending a lot of time hanging out with my brother(19) his best friend (also 19) and his bestfriends wife(20) yes ladies i said wife :shakes head:
now a few days ago he tells me he's done. he's unhappy and wants to give me space and him get some space and just stip fighting and he's sleeping on the couch and blah blah blah we have all heard this or have said it at some point typical copout break up lines.
nothing sparked inside me i was not sad, i was not glad, i was just like ok whatever. Come to find out he is interested in the best friends wife. she is uninterested in her husband and is planning to divorce him. they are now starting to build a relationship together...
the kicker to me is this, he lied. he is out all night (yes we still live in the same house, because he will not leave. he has no where else to go, he has no car, he drives mine) he spends NO time with our son.
i went to spend a few hours with my girlfriends the other day my only day off. my son screamed when i handed him to his father. ran away latched on to my neck and just cried. it broke my heart.
I am so upset and hurt by the situation not for me but for my son.