It's not that I wouldn't enjoy being taken out for a movie. I've just come to this point where I'm tired of the casual crap. I'm a single mom of two, whom I homeschool and I have 3 part time jobs. My freetime is sacred and comes at a price (specifically, the price of a babysitter). If you are only looking for "something fun" I am not your girl. And even on the off chance that you are indeed looking for something serious (eventually. That shit takes time) are you emotionally/socially/financially prepared to become a family man? Because if you hesitated even a little to any of those, you aren't ready. So let's not waste each others time.
I am right there with you. Every guy I talk to has a kid and I dont want to deal with deal with some baby mama anymore. Free time is definitly sacred I get really lonely but I love my free time :) I feel have fun with your kids and put the man second :)
Quoting MeeshMom:
I agree but with the limited info you gave us about this guy why not give him a shot? Unless you're not attracted.
I really like your attitude. The men I've met since my divorce weren't even ready for a real relationship. They all needed more maturing - even at their age. All three were divorced and had been cheated on. One was looking for a rebound relationship and the other two are losers. What I would like to happen to me is actually meeting a guy that is totally over all of that and is ready to at least make a friendship if nothing else. Jumping into a relationship because you are lonely and only wanting sex has consequences. I'm so done with guys like that. My ex is like that. That's why he's with his bimbo. I'm just going to keep myself busy with my interests. Something I never got to do when I was married. I compromised with my ex. Never will do that again. The guy I get involved with has to at least have more in common with me this go around. We both want the same things in life or we just won't work out. All those years I was with my ex were wasted years. The only positive thing out of my marriage was my daughter.
Uggghhhhh. I'm so glad it's not just me. It seems like every guy I meet is either way too immature, forgets I have KIDS who need me more than he does, or just wants to see me for one reason (which I don't do but they still try).
Very well said. I agree with cutting through the shit before the first date and explaining exactly what your life consists of and telling him what his life would be like with you. At least give him the option to either try to deal or bail.
Quoting PoplarGrove:
Uggghhhhh. I'm so glad it's not just me. It seems like every guy I meet is either way too immature, forgets I have KIDS who need me more than he does, or just wants to see me for one reason (which I don't do but they still try).
I was using dating sites for awhile...a LOT of guys didn't get the whole I have a kid thing. They'd text me at 11:30pm or whatnot asking what I was doing...seriously? I have an 8 month old who wakes up every 1-2 hours, and then is up for the day by 5am, what do you think I'm doing?!?
I weeded through most of them that way and only bothered going out once. Definitely need to cut through the bullshit.
prayers for all involved..
- songbird2716
on Jan. 22, 2013 at 10:45 PM