Hi, my name is Emily and I am a 28yr old single mom of 2 children. My daughter is 8 and my son is 5. I got divorced in 4/11 and in 6/11 my children and I had to move in with my parents--and we still live there. I was a stay at home mom for 7 yrs prior to this, I do work part time and have been since 11/11. I did try to get my own house but because I only work part time and I'm in school I couldn't get a loan. I am in school to become a Paralegal, I am almost done with my Associates degree--graduate this summer. My ex husband sees our children every other weekend and that is all. Right before the holidays he moved in with his girlfriend and her son so that is always fun. His weekends got switched at work so that meant that our weekends got switched and he didn't see our kids for nearly 4 weeks. This weekend is my daughter's Girl Scout Father-Daughter dance, originally it was supposed to be on his weekend but due to the schedule change at work it is now on my weekend. While picking up the kids last weekend he informed my mom that he would not be able to take our daughter this year as he forgot to ask off. So luckly my dad will be taking her. I realize that there are women who are in worse situations than mine, hell 2 of my best friends are single single moms and the dad is no where around. So I guess my question is, would you rather have a father who is not in the picture at all or a father who is only around every other weekend?? I know that seems harsh to ask, but if the dad is not around at all then at least you know that he isn't around and don't count on him for anything. Does that make sense. This was NOT to offend anyone either, just a question.