In the 3 years me and my EX have been divorced he has NEVER followed the court order for visitations. He comes and goes as he please. If he gets a new GF she comes before his kids. Today I got a text from my EX saying that his new GF of 2 weeks is moving in with him and that he won't be able to see the kids at my place anymore cause he doesn't think its fair to her. I told him that I don't trust his new GF one because they have only been together for a short while and two I don't know her not to hurt my kids. His taste in women lately have not been the best. He smokes weed and I think he might be doing more even though he says both him and his girl are clean. He told me if I didn't follow the courtorder for visitation that he would show up at my apartment with the sherrif and force me to hand over my kids and if I didn't he would send me to jail. I'm afraid that if I leave my kids with him alone that he will dissappear with them. He did it with his other son when he was 4. I told him if his new GF loved him at all she would not make him choose between her or the kids. When he comes to my place to see the kids I stay in my room so he can have time with the kids. He is also a smoker and smokes in his apartment and he knows the kids can't be around ciggerret smoke. I'm sitting in the hospital with my son right now and my EX is no where to be found. I asked him to come because his son needs him and he said I don't have a car or money for a cab tell him I love him. He says I am keeping him from seeing his kids when that's not true. I have never said he can't see his kids I said I won't leave my kids with her around. I told him that Archer can't even stand the thought of me being with someone else (he will check my phone to see who is calling me or texting me) so how the hell does he expect archer to be ok with seeing his dad with someone new. He's not even giving them the chance to get use to the idea. We just broke up right before thanksgiving and he's already with someone new. Any advice would be great thanks. And any bashing I will delet the post.
I should also add that when my DD was born he didn't see the kids for 8 months because he had a new GF. And he only wants to see the kids if he doesn't have plans with his new girlfriend or when its convienent for him. Also he was suppose to see the kids today but decided not to. He said that I won't let him see the kids but that is so far from the truth. Its his way to make me look like the bad guy and an excuse NOT to see the kids and be a father.
on Jan. 27, 2013 at 6:19 PM