Quoting tyfry7496:
You will never be happy with anyone or in any situation until YOU CAN MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY. Stop looking at what others have and be happy with what you have. The grass isn't always greener.
I divorced my ex and have 4 kids with him. The month after our divorce, my mom died suddenly- and she was my only family-- besides my kiddos and my exhusband. Alone? Absolutely. But by the grace of God, I have made it. YOU too will make it. One day at a time! Best wishes!!!
i had my son at 27 weeks and ended up leaving my hairdressing career and clientele to take care of my boy. about the time i could finally have put him in daycare and gone back my mom had a stroke . my son and i move in with her to help. last year, he started kindergarten and i again started to feel like i could go to work. mom had two more strokes in oct and nov. so believe me when i tell you that i completely understand. on occasion i get really mad at everybody doing life things... like regular stuff. it hits me like a ton of bricks that they are moving in a new or another direction and here i sit. and i am not one for being bored or lonely but when all of your friends and family keep doing their thing while you are barely keeping your head above water it feels soooo bad. and yeah. all alone. it seems like nothing will ever be different. but there is a whisper of light at the end of the tunnel. you mention having so much love to give? because you have that eventually it will be noticed by somebody and boom. no more lonely. until then totally fake it. with your family? fake it. friends? fake it. promise. one day it wont be fake . you really will be happy for someone again sincerely happy. because you put good out into the world it will come flooding back. but also... if for right now you just cant. give yourself room to feel that too. mourn what you have lost. be sad. feel sorry for yourself even. for a specific amount of time. but not forever. and then pick yourself up by your bootstraps, dust yourself off. and shake it ....you will see. promise.
MY MOM KEEPS SAYING "YOU DONT NEED MR.RIGHT PATTY,IT'S OK TO HAVE MR.RIGHT NOW,LMBO!!!" SHE CRACKS ME UP! BUT I THINK HER POINT IS SO I WONT BE SOO LONELY.I JUST DONT HAVE TIME,PATIENCE OR EVEN THE WANT TO FOR LACK OF MORE STRESS,LOL!!!
YOU'RE NOT HORRIBLE AT ALL!
I know that feeling, but it gets easier with time. Being single is not bad at all; I think it's even better.
Try and remember that you were once going through what they are going through now. At that time they may have been alone. Everyone has their moment of happiness. You are just not going through it at the same time. A lot can happen in a year. Your time will come again. In the meantime, rember what you have accomplished. You are on your own, raising a family. That is amazing! Sending good wishes your way...
didn't see this coming
- jenking04
on Feb. 2, 2013 at 10:02 PM