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Custody Issues...NEED ADVICE!!

Posted by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 10:59 PM
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My daughters father and i broke up right before christmas in 2012.  He came and picked her up for three days right after christmas, i found out that he was buying drugs with my daughter in the car, and he admitted it to me on a facebook message.  He hasnt seen her since.  I told him he could not come take her because of the drugs, and that he could either come to my house or we could meet in a mutual place so he could spend time with her.  He will not accecpt either on of those.  He hasnt given me any type of support for her and only texts me every couple of weeks.  I want to go get full costudy and child support but im scared that they will give him something and i don't want my daughter in that kind of enviornment.  I don't know what to do!

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s.osborne
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:01 PM
I'm sure if you mention the drugs he won't have a very fighting chance
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rtenboer
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:03 PM
If you have the facebook message print it out and take it. They can order supervised visits.
trish10987
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 11:05 PM

i did print them out...what if you can't afford a lawyer being a single mom and all...then what are you supposed to do?

 

Patty24momof5
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 12:42 AM
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You will need a lawyer,my husband and I had 5 together,weve been going through a divorce over a year.He is known for drugs and alcohol and abuse-proof with police reports etc.I had to pay 5,000.00 for my lawyer and am still a yr later yet to have our first trial because he keeps getting it extended.He did last time by cussing his lawyer in court house hall way and then firing him.Then in the courtroom he said they couldnt proceed because he had no lawyer.ITS RIDICULOUS.TO SAY THE LEAST.THE JUDGE PUT IN THE MEMORANDUM HE COULDNT USE ANY ILLEGAL DRUGS OR ALCOHOL 24 HRS PRIOR NOR DURING VISITS.HE HASNT PAID CHILD SUPPORT AT ALL FOR ALL OF LAST YEAR.IT IS COURT ORDERED.HE LIVES RENT FREE IN ONE OF HIS PARENT'S HOMES AND WORKS FOR HIS DAD WHEN HE WANTS TO FOR PARTY MONEY.YET I HAVE TO WORK FULL TIME GO TO COLLEGE FULL TIME AND SUPPORT MY 5 KIDS ALL BY MYSELF. IM FUCKING PISSED TO SAY THE LEAST THAT THE JUDGE LETS HIM OFF SCOTT FREE. HE HAS HAD NO REPROCUSSIONS....HE STOLE MY TAX MONEY THIS YEAR AGAIN AND CLAIMED THE KIDS WHEN HE DIDNT HAVE THEM ALL YEAR BECAUSE I HAD TO GET AN EPO ON HIM AND MOVE TO ANOTHER STATE FOR SAFTEY. THE ONLY THING THE JUDGE HAS DONE IS PUT THE PUNSIHMENT OF ME DRIVING THE KIDS BACK N FORTH FOR HIS WEEKEND VISIT A MONTH.IT IS A 7  1/2 HR TRIP ONE WAY SO ABOUT 300.00 FOR GAS OUT OF MY POCKET.All because I moved out of state because he was soo abusive and was threatening to get dropped off near my house and kill me without me ever knowing he was coming. I told the judge he had abused our kids even gave him specific events and told in the courtroom exactly what happened. HE LEFT THE KIDS OFF THE EPO WHEN I THOUGHT HE PUT THEM ON AS WELL.SO I LEFT THE STATE FOR SAFETY,COME TO FIND OUT WHEN I GOT THE COPY OF THE EPO IT DIDNT HAVE THE KIDS JUST ME. SO I WAS CHARGED AND INSTEAD OF JAIL TIME THAT WAS MY PUNSIHMENT.I AM NOT KIDDING AS CRAZY AS IT SOUNDS.ALSO I HAVE A CLEAN RECORD NEVER EVEN HAD A TRAFFIC TICKET HE (MY HUSBAND) HAS PAGES FULL OF CRIMES COMMITTED AND FACING FELONY CHARGES WHICH THEY HAVE EXTENDED THE TRIAL ON FOR OVER A YEAR AND A HALF FOR HIM.) IM TELLING YOU DONT EXPECT LIKE THE FIRST RESPONDER SAID EQUAL OF EVEN CLOSE TO FAIR JUDGEMENTS.

I PLAN ON WRITING ABOUT ALL THIS IN THE NEWSPAPERS AND EVERYWHERE I CAN WHEN THIS IS ALL OVER. I WILL HAVE THAT JUDGES JOB,INCLUDING THE OFFICERS IN THE COURTHOUSE,FOR LOSING (SUPPOSEDLY LOSING) MY LAST POLICE REPORT. THE STATE POLICE TOLD ME THEY CAN'T LOSE REPORTS BECAUSE THEY GO RIGHT INTO THE SYSTEM.WELL GUESS WHAT THEY SAID THEY LOST IT BLAMED IT ON THE PROSECUTOR AND HE BLAMES THEM IF HE'S ASKED.IT'S A MESS AND A DISGRACE. COURTROOMS ARE NOTHING TO ME ANYMORE BUT WORTHLESS AND SO ARE JUDGES AND LAWYERS.

Patty24momof5
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 12:49 AM

 NOT TRUE.....


Quoting s.osborne:

I'm sure if you mention the drugs he won't have a very fighting chance


 

Patty24momof5
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 12:51 AM

 OH I MUST ADD HE ALSO FATHERED ANOTHER CHILD WHILE WE WERE MARRIED AND I PROVIDED THE DNA PAPERS PROVING IT.


Quoting Patty24momof5:

You will need a lawyer,my husband and I had 5 together,weve been going through a divorce over a year.He is known for drugs and alcohol and abuse-proof with police reports etc.I had to pay 5,000.00 for my lawyer and am still a yr later yet to have our first trial because he keeps getting it extended.He did last time by cussing his lawyer in court house hall way and then firing him.Then in the courtroom he said they couldnt proceed because he had no lawyer.ITS RIDICULOUS.TO SAY THE LEAST.THE JUDGE PUT IN THE MEMORANDUM HE COULDNT USE ANY ILLEGAL DRUGS OR ALCOHOL 24 HRS PRIOR NOR DURING VISITS.HE HASNT PAID CHILD SUPPORT AT ALL FOR ALL OF LAST YEAR.IT IS COURT ORDERED.HE LIVES RENT FREE IN ONE OF HIS PARENT'S HOMES AND WORKS FOR HIS DAD WHEN HE WANTS TO FOR PARTY MONEY.YET I HAVE TO WORK FULL TIME GO TO COLLEGE FULL TIME AND SUPPORT MY 5 KIDS ALL BY MYSELF. IM FUCKING PISSED TO SAY THE LEAST THAT THE JUDGE LETS HIM OFF SCOTT FREE. HE HAS HAD NO REPROCUSSIONS....HE STOLE MY TAX MONEY THIS YEAR AGAIN AND CLAIMED THE KIDS WHEN HE DIDNT HAVE THEM ALL YEAR BECAUSE I HAD TO GET AN EPO ON HIM AND MOVE TO ANOTHER STATE FOR SAFTEY. THE ONLY THING THE JUDGE HAS DONE IS PUT THE PUNSIHMENT OF ME DRIVING THE KIDS BACK N FORTH FOR HIS WEEKEND VISIT A MONTH.IT IS A 7  1/2 HR TRIP ONE WAY SO ABOUT 300.00 FOR GAS OUT OF MY POCKET.All because I moved out of state because he was soo abusive and was threatening to get dropped off near my house and kill me without me ever knowing he was coming. I told the judge he had abused our kids even gave him specific events and told in the courtroom exactly what happened. HE LEFT THE KIDS OFF THE EPO WHEN I THOUGHT HE PUT THEM ON AS WELL.SO I LEFT THE STATE FOR SAFETY,COME TO FIND OUT WHEN I GOT THE COPY OF THE EPO IT DIDNT HAVE THE KIDS JUST ME. SO I WAS CHARGED AND INSTEAD OF JAIL TIME THAT WAS MY PUNSIHMENT.I AM NOT KIDDING AS CRAZY AS IT SOUNDS.ALSO I HAVE A CLEAN RECORD NEVER EVEN HAD A TRAFFIC TICKET HE (MY HUSBAND) HAS PAGES FULL OF CRIMES COMMITTED AND FACING FELONY CHARGES WHICH THEY HAVE EXTENDED THE TRIAL ON FOR OVER A YEAR AND A HALF FOR HIM.) IM TELLING YOU DONT EXPECT LIKE THE FIRST RESPONDER SAID EQUAL OF EVEN CLOSE TO FAIR JUDGEMENTS.

I PLAN ON WRITING ABOUT ALL THIS IN THE NEWSPAPERS AND EVERYWHERE I CAN WHEN THIS IS ALL OVER. I WILL HAVE THAT JUDGES JOB,INCLUDING THE OFFICERS IN THE COURTHOUSE,FOR LOSING (SUPPOSEDLY LOSING) MY LAST POLICE REPORT. THE STATE POLICE TOLD ME THEY CAN'T LOSE REPORTS BECAUSE THEY GO RIGHT INTO THE SYSTEM.WELL GUESS WHAT THEY SAID THEY LOST IT BLAMED IT ON THE PROSECUTOR AND HE BLAMES THEM IF HE'S ASKED.IT'S A MESS AND A DISGRACE. COURTROOMS ARE NOTHING TO ME ANYMORE BUT WORTHLESS AND SO ARE JUDGES AND LAWYERS.


 

Patty24momof5
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 12:51 AM

 

AND WAIT..HE NOW HAS NO DRIVER'S LICENSE DUE TO SOOO MANY DUI'S AND ELUDING FROM THE POLICE CHARGES.

Quoting Patty24momof5:

 OH I MUST ADD HE ALSO FATHERED ANOTHER CHILD WHILE WE WERE MARRIED AND I PROVIDED THE DNA PAPERS PROVING IT.

 

Quoting Patty24momof5:

You will need a lawyer,my husband and I had 5 together,weve been going through a divorce over a year.He is known for drugs and alcohol and abuse-proof with police reports etc.I had to pay 5,000.00 for my lawyer and am still a yr later yet to have our first trial because he keeps getting it extended.He did last time by cussing his lawyer in court house hall way and then firing him.Then in the courtroom he said they couldnt proceed because he had no lawyer.ITS RIDICULOUS.TO SAY THE LEAST.THE JUDGE PUT IN THE MEMORANDUM HE COULDNT USE ANY ILLEGAL DRUGS OR ALCOHOL 24 HRS PRIOR NOR DURING VISITS.HE HASNT PAID CHILD SUPPORT AT ALL FOR ALL OF LAST YEAR.IT IS COURT ORDERED.HE LIVES RENT FREE IN ONE OF HIS PARENT'S HOMES AND WORKS FOR HIS DAD WHEN HE WANTS TO FOR PARTY MONEY.YET I HAVE TO WORK FULL TIME GO TO COLLEGE FULL TIME AND SUPPORT MY 5 KIDS ALL BY MYSELF. IM FUCKING PISSED TO SAY THE LEAST THAT THE JUDGE LETS HIM OFF SCOTT FREE. HE HAS HAD NO REPROCUSSIONS....HE STOLE MY TAX MONEY THIS YEAR AGAIN AND CLAIMED THE KIDS WHEN HE DIDNT HAVE THEM ALL YEAR BECAUSE I HAD TO GET AN EPO ON HIM AND MOVE TO ANOTHER STATE FOR SAFTEY. THE ONLY THING THE JUDGE HAS DONE IS PUT THE PUNSIHMENT OF ME DRIVING THE KIDS BACK N FORTH FOR HIS WEEKEND VISIT A MONTH.IT IS A 7  1/2 HR TRIP ONE WAY SO ABOUT 300.00 FOR GAS OUT OF MY POCKET.All because I moved out of state because he was soo abusive and was threatening to get dropped off near my house and kill me without me ever knowing he was coming. I told the judge he had abused our kids even gave him specific events and told in the courtroom exactly what happened. HE LEFT THE KIDS OFF THE EPO WHEN I THOUGHT HE PUT THEM ON AS WELL.SO I LEFT THE STATE FOR SAFETY,COME TO FIND OUT WHEN I GOT THE COPY OF THE EPO IT DIDNT HAVE THE KIDS JUST ME. SO I WAS CHARGED AND INSTEAD OF JAIL TIME THAT WAS MY PUNSIHMENT.I AM NOT KIDDING AS CRAZY AS IT SOUNDS.ALSO I HAVE A CLEAN RECORD NEVER EVEN HAD A TRAFFIC TICKET HE (MY HUSBAND) HAS PAGES FULL OF CRIMES COMMITTED AND FACING FELONY CHARGES WHICH THEY HAVE EXTENDED THE TRIAL ON FOR OVER A YEAR AND A HALF FOR HIM.) IM TELLING YOU DONT EXPECT LIKE THE FIRST RESPONDER SAID EQUAL OF EVEN CLOSE TO FAIR JUDGEMENTS.

I PLAN ON WRITING ABOUT ALL THIS IN THE NEWSPAPERS AND EVERYWHERE I CAN WHEN THIS IS ALL OVER. I WILL HAVE THAT JUDGES JOB,INCLUDING THE OFFICERS IN THE COURTHOUSE,FOR LOSING (SUPPOSEDLY LOSING) MY LAST POLICE REPORT. THE STATE POLICE TOLD ME THEY CAN'T LOSE REPORTS BECAUSE THEY GO RIGHT INTO THE SYSTEM.WELL GUESS WHAT THEY SAID THEY LOST IT BLAMED IT ON THE PROSECUTOR AND HE BLAMES THEM IF HE'S ASKED.IT'S A MESS AND A DISGRACE. COURTROOMS ARE NOTHING TO ME ANYMORE BUT WORTHLESS AND SO ARE JUDGES AND LAWYERS.

 

 


 

stormystar15
by Jessica on Feb. 3, 2013 at 12:58 AM
Omg that's insane that they did that. Op document everything keep the visitations supervised and just wait until you can hire a lawyer for custody.

Quoting Patty24momof5:

 OH I MUST ADD HE ALSO FATHERED ANOTHER CHILD WHILE WE WERE MARRIED AND I PROVIDED THE DNA PAPERS PROVING IT.




Quoting Patty24momof5:


You will need a lawyer,my husband and I had 5 together,weve been going through a divorce over a year.He is known for drugs and alcohol and abuse-proof with police reports etc.I had to pay 5,000.00 for my lawyer and am still a yr later yet to have our first trial because he keeps getting it extended.He did last time by cussing his lawyer in court house hall way and then firing him.Then in the courtroom he said they couldnt proceed because he had no lawyer.ITS RIDICULOUS.TO SAY THE LEAST.THE JUDGE PUT IN THE MEMORANDUM HE COULDNT USE ANY ILLEGAL DRUGS OR ALCOHOL 24 HRS PRIOR NOR DURING VISITS.HE HASNT PAID CHILD SUPPORT AT ALL FOR ALL OF LAST YEAR.IT IS COURT ORDERED.HE LIVES RENT FREE IN ONE OF HIS PARENT'S HOMES AND WORKS FOR HIS DAD WHEN HE WANTS TO FOR PARTY MONEY.YET I HAVE TO WORK FULL TIME GO TO COLLEGE FULL TIME AND SUPPORT MY 5 KIDS ALL BY MYSELF. IM FUCKING PISSED TO SAY THE LEAST THAT THE JUDGE LETS HIM OFF SCOTT FREE. HE HAS HAD NO REPROCUSSIONS....HE STOLE MY TAX MONEY THIS YEAR AGAIN AND CLAIMED THE KIDS WHEN HE DIDNT HAVE THEM ALL YEAR BECAUSE I HAD TO GET AN EPO ON HIM AND MOVE TO ANOTHER STATE FOR SAFTEY. THE ONLY THING THE JUDGE HAS DONE IS PUT THE PUNSIHMENT OF ME DRIVING THE KIDS BACK N FORTH FOR HIS WEEKEND VISIT A MONTH.IT IS A 7  1/2 HR TRIP ONE WAY SO ABOUT 300.00 FOR GAS OUT OF MY POCKET.All because I moved out of state because he was soo abusive and was threatening to get dropped off near my house and kill me without me ever knowing he was coming. I told the judge he had abused our kids even gave him specific events and told in the courtroom exactly what happened. HE LEFT THE KIDS OFF THE EPO WHEN I THOUGHT HE PUT THEM ON AS WELL.SO I LEFT THE STATE FOR SAFETY,COME TO FIND OUT WHEN I GOT THE COPY OF THE EPO IT DIDNT HAVE THE KIDS JUST ME. SO I WAS CHARGED AND INSTEAD OF JAIL TIME THAT WAS MY PUNSIHMENT.I AM NOT KIDDING AS CRAZY AS IT SOUNDS.ALSO I HAVE A CLEAN RECORD NEVER EVEN HAD A TRAFFIC TICKET HE (MY HUSBAND) HAS PAGES FULL OF CRIMES COMMITTED AND FACING FELONY CHARGES WHICH THEY HAVE EXTENDED THE TRIAL ON FOR OVER A YEAR AND A HALF FOR HIM.) IM TELLING YOU DONT EXPECT LIKE THE FIRST RESPONDER SAID EQUAL OF EVEN CLOSE TO FAIR JUDGEMENTS.


I PLAN ON WRITING ABOUT ALL THIS IN THE NEWSPAPERS AND EVERYWHERE I CAN WHEN THIS IS ALL OVER. I WILL HAVE THAT JUDGES JOB,INCLUDING THE OFFICERS IN THE COURTHOUSE,FOR LOSING (SUPPOSEDLY LOSING) MY LAST POLICE REPORT. THE STATE POLICE TOLD ME THEY CAN'T LOSE REPORTS BECAUSE THEY GO RIGHT INTO THE SYSTEM.WELL GUESS WHAT THEY SAID THEY LOST IT BLAMED IT ON THE PROSECUTOR AND HE BLAMES THEM IF HE'S ASKED.IT'S A MESS AND A DISGRACE. COURTROOMS ARE NOTHING TO ME ANYMORE BUT WORTHLESS AND SO ARE JUDGES AND LAWYERS.




 

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Patty24momof5
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 1:01 AM

 oh I forgot to say that even the kids guargian ad litem (their attorney which I had to pay for) wanted his visits supervised like me.THE JUDGE REFUSED THAT TOO.


Quoting stormystar15:

Omg that's insane that they did that. Op document everything keep the visitations supervised and just wait until you can hire a lawyer for custody.

Quoting Patty24momof5:

 OH I MUST ADD HE ALSO FATHERED ANOTHER CHILD WHILE WE WERE MARRIED AND I PROVIDED THE DNA PAPERS PROVING IT.


 


Quoting Patty24momof5:


You will need a lawyer,my husband and I had 5 together,weve been going through a divorce over a year.He is known for drugs and alcohol and abuse-proof with police reports etc.I had to pay 5,000.00 for my lawyer and am still a yr later yet to have our first trial because he keeps getting it extended.He did last time by cussing his lawyer in court house hall way and then firing him.Then in the courtroom he said they couldnt proceed because he had no lawyer.ITS RIDICULOUS.TO SAY THE LEAST.THE JUDGE PUT IN THE MEMORANDUM HE COULDNT USE ANY ILLEGAL DRUGS OR ALCOHOL 24 HRS PRIOR NOR DURING VISITS.HE HASNT PAID CHILD SUPPORT AT ALL FOR ALL OF LAST YEAR.IT IS COURT ORDERED.HE LIVES RENT FREE IN ONE OF HIS PARENT'S HOMES AND WORKS FOR HIS DAD WHEN HE WANTS TO FOR PARTY MONEY.YET I HAVE TO WORK FULL TIME GO TO COLLEGE FULL TIME AND SUPPORT MY 5 KIDS ALL BY MYSELF. IM FUCKING PISSED TO SAY THE LEAST THAT THE JUDGE LETS HIM OFF SCOTT FREE. HE HAS HAD NO REPROCUSSIONS....HE STOLE MY TAX MONEY THIS YEAR AGAIN AND CLAIMED THE KIDS WHEN HE DIDNT HAVE THEM ALL YEAR BECAUSE I HAD TO GET AN EPO ON HIM AND MOVE TO ANOTHER STATE FOR SAFTEY. THE ONLY THING THE JUDGE HAS DONE IS PUT THE PUNSIHMENT OF ME DRIVING THE KIDS BACK N FORTH FOR HIS WEEKEND VISIT A MONTH.IT IS A 7  1/2 HR TRIP ONE WAY SO ABOUT 300.00 FOR GAS OUT OF MY POCKET.All because I moved out of state because he was soo abusive and was threatening to get dropped off near my house and kill me without me ever knowing he was coming. I told the judge he had abused our kids even gave him specific events and told in the courtroom exactly what happened. HE LEFT THE KIDS OFF THE EPO WHEN I THOUGHT HE PUT THEM ON AS WELL.SO I LEFT THE STATE FOR SAFETY,COME TO FIND OUT WHEN I GOT THE COPY OF THE EPO IT DIDNT HAVE THE KIDS JUST ME. SO I WAS CHARGED AND INSTEAD OF JAIL TIME THAT WAS MY PUNSIHMENT.I AM NOT KIDDING AS CRAZY AS IT SOUNDS.ALSO I HAVE A CLEAN RECORD NEVER EVEN HAD A TRAFFIC TICKET HE (MY HUSBAND) HAS PAGES FULL OF CRIMES COMMITTED AND FACING FELONY CHARGES WHICH THEY HAVE EXTENDED THE TRIAL ON FOR OVER A YEAR AND A HALF FOR HIM.) IM TELLING YOU DONT EXPECT LIKE THE FIRST RESPONDER SAID EQUAL OF EVEN CLOSE TO FAIR JUDGEMENTS.


I PLAN ON WRITING ABOUT ALL THIS IN THE NEWSPAPERS AND EVERYWHERE I CAN WHEN THIS IS ALL OVER. I WILL HAVE THAT JUDGES JOB,INCLUDING THE OFFICERS IN THE COURTHOUSE,FOR LOSING (SUPPOSEDLY LOSING) MY LAST POLICE REPORT. THE STATE POLICE TOLD ME THEY CAN'T LOSE REPORTS BECAUSE THEY GO RIGHT INTO THE SYSTEM.WELL GUESS WHAT THEY SAID THEY LOST IT BLAMED IT ON THE PROSECUTOR AND HE BLAMES THEM IF HE'S ASKED.IT'S A MESS AND A DISGRACE. COURTROOMS ARE NOTHING TO ME ANYMORE BUT WORTHLESS AND SO ARE JUDGES AND LAWYERS.


 


 


 

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by Nora on Feb. 3, 2013 at 1:01 AM
Document everything unfortunately a lawyer is the best way to go good luck
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