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ex issues with custody agreement !!!!

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so ive posted alotb4 he wont sign agreement bc he wants 50 /50 custody anyway his aa counselor is a lawyer and called my daughter up sat morn cussing her out saying he will take her to court and make her pay alll expenses.. said he will make sure of that if  she dont sign ths 50 50 agreement bc he has every right she has ...it was brutal on her cussing the way he did scaring her ..then ex calls and says in taking u to court mind u theve been cordial to each other ..then  he called her today and said he want to be civil and not go to court just let him have her 2 evenings a week and every other weekend for couple hours and not sing nothing ..hes such a flip flopper she dont know what to do she wanted it this way so i would stay out of court but i need some kind of agreement dont u ???

by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:30 PM
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kitty8199
by Silver Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 6:28 PM
She just needs to file it. If he wants to fight he can pay legal fees

Quoting 3grls1wildboy:

 she had a lawyer draw up agreement and he was fine with it untill her lawyer tweeked it into a leagal document..so the lawyer she did have she can have again but that was 500 shes running low on money ,,,




Quoting kitty8199:

If he has a license for your state he could. She still needs to report it to his state board.
does she have a lawyer?
If so he can't contact her at all. Has to go through lawyer.

He has to have a good reason to get full custody. , just having a lawyer won't do it



Quoting 3grls1wildboy:


 



the lawyer is not even in this state so can he really take her to court or is he tring to scare her ..she told ex she didnt appreciate his lawyer freind waking her up to cuss her out he said thats his personality ..it was tottaly unexpected so its not recorded he doesnt even have a physical address its a po box ..



Quoting kitty8199:

Have her call the ethics board on the lawyer. He can't threaten her


 



 




 

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3grls1wildboy
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 6:30 PM

 

DE and no not married but her lawyer even said when baby is born he has 50 50 rights to baby even wo paternity or name not on bc ,,,,this state is all for dad from what im seeing

Quoting kitty8199:

What state, were they married?
most, not all states give mom full custody and dad has to fight if not married


Quoting 3grls1wildboy:

 should she file what her lawyer drew up for her even thiough he wont sign it ??


so leagally he can keep baby if custody order is not in place ?


Quoting Mom2Phoenix2011:

Have her file and make it go to mediation so not let him have the child until a custody order is in place because depending on where tgwy live he will not have room give the child back.

 


 


 

3grls1wildboy
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 6:31 PM

 

this state whoever files has to pay all fees

Quoting kitty8199:

She just needs to file it. If he wants to fight he can pay legal fees

Quoting 3grls1wildboy:

 she had a lawyer draw up agreement and he was fine with it untill her lawyer tweeked it into a leagal document..so the lawyer she did have she can have again but that was 500 shes running low on money ,,,


 


Quoting kitty8199:

If he has a license for your state he could. She still needs to report it to his state board.
does she have a lawyer?
If so he can't contact her at all. Has to go through lawyer.

He has to have a good reason to get full custody. , just having a lawyer won't do it



Quoting 3grls1wildboy:


 



the lawyer is not even in this state so can he really take her to court or is he tring to scare her ..she told ex she didnt appreciate his lawyer freind waking her up to cuss her out he said thats his personality ..it was tottaly unexpected so its not recorded he doesnt even have a physical address its a po box ..



Quoting kitty8199:

Have her call the ethics board on the lawyer. He can't threaten her


 



 


 


 


 

kitty8199
by Silver Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 6:31 PM
Not necessarily.
If my dd "dad" didn't return her, he'd be charged with kidnapping, and there's no custody order in place.
Mom has full custody unless dad is given something by the court


Quoting Mom2Phoenix2011:

She can talk to the lawyer but there needs to be an emergency court order in place.



Quoting 3grls1wildboy:

 should she file what her lawyer drew up for her even thiough he wont sign it ??



so leagally he can keep baby if custody order is not in place ?



Quoting Mom2Phoenix2011:

Have her file and make it go to mediation so not let him have the child until a custody order is in place because depending on where tgwy live he will not have room give the child back.





 

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3grls1wildboy
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 6:33 PM

 

oh and his lawyer already said he is going to rep him for free and stick all fees on her and her parents ie me

Quoting 3grls1wildboy:

 

this state whoever files has to pay all fees

Quoting kitty8199:

She just needs to file it. If he wants to fight he can pay legal fees

Quoting 3grls1wildboy:

 she had a lawyer draw up agreement and he was fine with it untill her lawyer tweeked it into a leagal document..so the lawyer she did have she can have again but that was 500 shes running low on money ,,,


 


Quoting kitty8199:

If he has a license for your state he could. She still needs to report it to his state board.
does she have a lawyer?
If so he can't contact her at all. Has to go through lawyer.

He has to have a good reason to get full custody. , just having a lawyer won't do it



Quoting 3grls1wildboy:


 



the lawyer is not even in this state so can he really take her to court or is he tring to scare her ..she told ex she didnt appreciate his lawyer freind waking her up to cuss her out he said thats his personality ..it was tottaly unexpected so its not recorded he doesnt even have a physical address its a po box ..



Quoting kitty8199:

Have her call the ethics board on the lawyer. He can't threaten her


 



 


 


 

 

 


 

kitty8199
by Silver Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 6:33 PM
That doesn't sound right. That means any guy can just claim rights to any kid. There had to be some paternity establishment

Quoting 3grls1wildboy:

 


DE and no not married but her lawyer even said when baby is born he has 50 50 rights to baby even wo paternity or name not on bc ,,,,this state is all for dad from what im seeing


Quoting kitty8199:

What state, were they married?
most, not all states give mom full custody and dad has to fight if not married



Quoting 3grls1wildboy:


 should she file what her lawyer drew up for her even thiough he wont sign it ??



so leagally he can keep baby if custody order is not in place ?



Quoting Mom2Phoenix2011:

Have her file and make it go to mediation so not let him have the child until a custody order is in place because depending on where tgwy live he will not have room give the child back.


 



 




 

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kitty8199
by Silver Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 6:34 PM
A judge had to agree to that.

Quoting 3grls1wildboy:

 


oh and his lawyer already said he is going to rep him for free and stick all fees on her and her parents ie me


Quoting 3grls1wildboy:


 


this state whoever files has to pay all fees


Quoting kitty8199:

She just needs to file it. If he wants to fight he can pay legal fees


Quoting 3grls1wildboy:


 she had a lawyer draw up agreement and he was fine with it untill her lawyer tweeked it into a leagal document..so the lawyer she did have she can have again but that was 500 shes running low on money ,,,



 



Quoting kitty8199:

If he has a license for your state he could. She still needs to report it to his state board.
does she have a lawyer?
If so he can't contact her at all. Has to go through lawyer.

He has to have a good reason to get full custody. , just having a lawyer won't do it




Quoting 3grls1wildboy:



 




the lawyer is not even in this state so can he really take her to court or is he tring to scare her ..she told ex she didnt appreciate his lawyer freind waking her up to cuss her out he said thats his personality ..it was tottaly unexpected so its not recorded he doesnt even have a physical address its a po box ..




Quoting kitty8199:

Have her call the ethics board on the lawyer. He can't threaten her



 




 



 



 


 


 




 

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3grls1wildboy
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 6:36 PM

 whats an emergency order???also we called cops to see what we can do and the cheif said we can do nothing as long a child is not in danger this is a terrible state ..i even asked he we could get him for kidnapping they said no he has rights to his child


Quoting kitty8199:

Not necessarily.
If my dd "dad" didn't return her, he'd be charged with kidnapping, and there's no custody order in place.
Mom has full custody unless dad is given something by the court


Quoting Mom2Phoenix2011:

She can talk to the lawyer but there needs to be an emergency court order in place.



Quoting 3grls1wildboy:

 should she file what her lawyer drew up for her even thiough he wont sign it ??



so leagally he can keep baby if custody order is not in place ?



Quoting Mom2Phoenix2011:

Have her file and make it go to mediation so not let him have the child until a custody order is in place because depending on where tgwy live he will not have room give the child back.


 



 


 

brieri
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 6:41 PM

 Yep, fight, fight, fight and spend, spend spend! 

Quoting 3grls1wildboy:

 

if they cant agree what do u do then just go file for custody she wants bc he will deff fight it ..


 

Quoting brieri:

 Yes a formal written agreement is what is needed for anytime backup purposes.  Good luck.

 

 

 

3grls1wildboy
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 6:41 PM

 

nope i asked the same thing to lawyer and cop and i asked so u meann to tell me anyone can say there the dad and mother doesnt dispute it they can file for custody lawyer said yes ..theres a paternity oordered but we havent received anything DE really does suck ..

Quoting kitty8199:

That doesn't sound right. That means any guy can just claim rights to any kid. There had to be some paternity establishment

Quoting 3grls1wildboy:

 


DE and no not married but her lawyer even said when baby is born he has 50 50 rights to baby even wo paternity or name not on bc ,,,,this state is all for dad from what im seeing


Quoting kitty8199:

What state, were they married?
most, not all states give mom full custody and dad has to fight if not married



Quoting 3grls1wildboy:


 should she file what her lawyer drew up for her even thiough he wont sign it ??



so leagally he can keep baby if custody order is not in place ?



Quoting Mom2Phoenix2011:

Have her file and make it go to mediation so not let him have the child until a custody order is in place because depending on where tgwy live he will not have room give the child back.


 



 


 


 


 

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