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ex issues with custody agreement !!!!

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so ive posted alotb4 he wont sign agreement bc he wants 50 /50 custody anyway his aa counselor is a lawyer and called my daughter up sat morn cussing her out saying he will take her to court and make her pay alll expenses.. said he will make sure of that if  she dont sign ths 50 50 agreement bc he has every right she has ...it was brutal on her cussing the way he did scaring her ..then ex calls and says in taking u to court mind u theve been cordial to each other ..then  he called her today and said he want to be civil and not go to court just let him have her 2 evenings a week and every other weekend for couple hours and not sing nothing ..hes such a flip flopper she dont know what to do she wanted it this way so i would stay out of court but i need some kind of agreement dont u ???

by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 5:30 PM
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3grls1wildboy
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 11:21 AM
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all this just happened sunday and she has an app to go bac to lawyer thank you so much for advice :)

Quoting victoriahearts:

Honestly if I were your daughter I would have stopped trying to deal with the father's attorney and him and gone to court by now. I think your daughter needs to sit down with her attorney and discuss the matter and prepare herself to go to court because that is where this leading, his attorney is being unreasonable and the only way that he would have gotten every fee paid for by the other parents is if they agreed to it, so your daughter shouldn't agree to it. He mostly likely bullied and scared the other parents, I'm sure if your daughter ask her attorney he will tell her that he probably has never seen  a case where two parents that weren't married and were fighting for custody of their child, where the other parent was told to pay the other attorneys fee. I would keep everything and make sure her attorney had every last piece of paperwork so that he could show everything in court, the best advice I can give you is to listen to the attorney and take his a** to court.

 

Quoting 3grls1wildboy:

 

thats what he and hisattorny freind is telling hr ..there saying he is top3 in state and will get every fee paid for by her and attorney said ex will pay nothing he will get all his services for free and said hes done this b4 ..so whather attory drew up would u attach that to ur custody papers to file at court?

Quoting victoriahearts:

She isn't responsible for his attorney's fee she didn't hire him, she didn't advise him to get an attorney and this is a custodial matter in which the judge will never grant that she pay his attorney's fee, he wanted one now he is responsible for that fee. And if anything the attorney behavior reflects poorly on the father so if they would go to court it would look bad for him.  Just advise your daughter to listen to her attorney , use her good judgement and that she should set a date, and tell the father and his attorney they have until x date to come up with an agreement they both agree upon or she will file with court and let her attorney make his agreement there. This will get them to either start being reasonable or they will have to face the music in court. 

Quoting 3grls1wildboy:

 the attorney and my daighter went over the document and she thought it was fair nothing in there un reasonable and she is calling board of ethics ..i see its all about money for him not best intrest of child and hes a big bully he said his attorney will draw up papers for him at my daughters expense he said he will have her billedfor everything and she WILLsign it she said no ill look it over and i told her same thing record everything

 

Quoting victoriahearts:

Agree with the ladies that attorney was totally out of the line and she should report him, also the next time either of them calls her, I would  record it as proof because it's illegal for an attorney to threat her or intimidate her that way. And honestly I think the ex is calling now because he is realizing that he screwed up and taking your daughter to court would be a huge mistake for him, I think she should speak to her attorney and decide what she think it's fair to her and her child and go from there. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


 

Mrs.Sells
by Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 1:54 PM

Why on earth is your daughter listening to the man who doesn't care about his child and his recovering alcoholic friend? 


Quoting 3grls1wildboy:


thats what he and hisattorny freind is telling hr ..there saying he is top3 in state and will get every fee paid for by her and attorney said ex will pay nothing he will get all his services for free and said hes done this b4 ..so whather attory drew up would u attach that to ur custody papers to file at court?

Quoting victoriahearts:

She isn't responsible for his attorney's fee she didn't hire him, she didn't advise him to get an attorney and this is a custodial matter in which the judge will never grant that she pay his attorney's fee, he wanted one now he is responsible for that fee. And if anything the attorney behavior reflects poorly on the father so if they would go to court it would look bad for him.  Just advise your daughter to listen to her attorney , use her good judgement and that she should set a date, and tell the father and his attorney they have until x date to come up with an agreement they both agree upon or she will file with court and let her attorney make his agreement there. This will get them to either start being reasonable or they will have to face the music in court. 

Quoting 3grls1wildboy:

 the attorney and my daighter went over the document and she thought it was fair nothing in there un reasonable and she is calling board of ethics ..i see its all about money for him not best intrest of child and hes a big bully he said his attorney will draw up papers for him at my daughters expense he said he will have her billedfor everything and she WILLsign it she said no ill look it over and i told her same thing record everything


Quoting victoriahearts:

Agree with the ladies that attorney was totally out of the line and she should report him, also the next time either of them calls her, I would  record it as proof because it's illegal for an attorney to threat her or intimidate her that way. And honestly I think the ex is calling now because he is realizing that he screwed up and taking your daughter to court would be a huge mistake for him, I think she should speak to her attorney and decide what she think it's fair to her and her child and go from there. 









3grls1wildboy
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:42 PM

 

not sure what u mean she has her own lawyer shes a young mother thats never been through this and is scared when someone calls up early in morning saying there going to come after her and her parents for all the money they haveif she dont sign his agreemen twhich shes not  shes not listening to him there were both trying to be civil with an agreement that they made up by her lawyer to keep it leagal and now he wont sign it

Quoting Mrs.Sells:

Why on earth is your daughter listening to the man who doesn't care about his child and his recovering alcoholic friend? 

 

Quoting 3grls1wildboy:

 

thats what he and hisattorny freind is telling hr ..there saying he is top3 in state and will get every fee paid for by her and attorney said ex will pay nothing he will get all his services for free and said hes done this b4 ..so whather attory drew up would u attach that to ur custody papers to file at court?

Quoting victoriahearts:

She isn't responsible for his attorney's fee she didn't hire him, she didn't advise him to get an attorney and this is a custodial matter in which the judge will never grant that she pay his attorney's fee, he wanted one now he is responsible for that fee. And if anything the attorney behavior reflects poorly on the father so if they would go to court it would look bad for him.  Just advise your daughter to listen to her attorney , use her good judgement and that she should set a date, and tell the father and his attorney they have until x date to come up with an agreement they both agree upon or she will file with court and let her attorney make his agreement there. This will get them to either start being reasonable or they will have to face the music in court. 

Quoting 3grls1wildboy:

 the attorney and my daighter went over the document and she thought it was fair nothing in there un reasonable and she is calling board of ethics ..i see its all about money for him not best intrest of child and hes a big bully he said his attorney will draw up papers for him at my daughters expense he said he will have her billedfor everything and she WILLsign it she said no ill look it over and i told her same thing record everything

 

Quoting victoriahearts:

Agree with the ladies that attorney was totally out of the line and she should report him, also the next time either of them calls her, I would  record it as proof because it's illegal for an attorney to threat her or intimidate her that way. And honestly I think the ex is calling now because he is realizing that he screwed up and taking your daughter to court would be a huge mistake for him, I think she should speak to her attorney and decide what she think it's fair to her and her child and go from there. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


 

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