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Rent is due today.

$650 by 9pm. I have $380. I don't get paid for 2 more days, and I can't be late without extensive late fees. DS's father gives my 250 in CS each month out of pocket, because FOC has been dragging their asses on processing my application for CS. This month though, he's decided he's not giving me a cent, because he suddenly "wants custody of DS." We share parenting time half and half, even though I have full custody by default. I think he just doesn't have the money and doesn't want to tell me. All of his bills are paid, but I haven't paid my electric, gas, phone, internet, etc in 5 months, since we split and he left me jobless in this overpriced apartment. I work now, but even full time, minimum wage doesn't cut it. My car doesn't have insurance or tags, and it's only a matter of time before it gets impounded. I'm so stressed out, I can't stop throwing up. 
We're going to be homeless and he acts like he doesn't even care.
He's a very good father and has always been very helpful to us, but I don't know why he's suddenly being an asswipe about it.
Any suggesstions on how to deal with this situation? 

by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 8:05 AM
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pranafauna
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 12:07 PM

Where do you live if you don't mind me asking?

We have these shelters for single mothers that help with really affordable temporary housing to give them a chance to save up for a few months to get back up on the feet. They have people who offer assistance on money management and everything. They offer health care and good food too. I'm not sure if you have anything like this in your city, but it's worth looking into.

It might feel awkward being at a "homeless" shelter. But if you can't afford the rent and you need help getting back on your feet. Do it. Don't feel ashamed or embarrassed. Go and see if these kind of shelters are available. I've worked at these places and I see a lot of women leave in six months time with rent money all together for the following year. It also helps them with networking and making new friends.

Oliviasmom72
by Silver Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 12:13 PM

DHS is not lazy they have tens of thousands of cases to deal with. With all due respect it is you and the dads job to support the kid, not tax payers. It sounds like you cannot afford your place so talk to the LL and ask about breaking the lease, or just give notice and try to work something out. Do you have any friends or family you can stay with until more money starts coming in?

breebree04
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 12:40 PM

you can call dhs and ask to speak with your case workers supervisor but since you dont have a phone I would go down to the dhs office and demand to talk to a supervisor. They only have so many days to give you an answer on whether or not they will help you when its an emergency situation, like eviction or shut off notices. Also in the meantime check with your local churches, alot of times they have funds that they will give people in need for rent/bills. I would definately consider moving in with family though if thats an option because being a single mom and doing it on your own is hard and you will be in this same situation again next month

ckmom2013
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 1:17 PM
Maybe where ur state is just fucked up cuz I went to social services told them I was getting put out and got a security deposit n first month rent paid within like a week. Go down there then if you cant call.
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easinpc
by Gold Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:10 PM

Good luck!

brieri
by Platinum Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:36 PM

 Hi and welcome to the group.

If your not paying internet, then how are you able to be here?  Good luck in your endeavors.

katemckenzie
by Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:39 PM

Borrowing my neighbor's wifi on the laptop.


Quoting brieri:

 Hi and welcome to the group.

If your not paying internet, then how are you able to be here?  Good luck in your endeavors.



Kissybratzmom
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:47 PM
What's your deal?! She didn't ask for someone's rude two cents. She has a full time job and is trying to provide for her family. Get off your high horse! In reality, a very tiny portion of your money even goes for that, and if she's working, she's paying into it.

Quoting Oliviasmom72:

DHS is not lazy they have tens of thousands of cases to deal with. With all due respect it is you and the dads job to support the kid, not tax payers. It sounds like you cannot afford your place so talk to the LL and ask about breaking the lease, or just give notice and try to work something out. Do you have any friends or family you can stay with until more money starts coming in?

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ShutterFreak03
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 3:00 PM
Yikes. Can you find a cheaper place & then just move, out? Itll fuck up your renters credit but oh welll you gotta do something.
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Oliviasmom72
by Silver Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 6:19 PM
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i dont have a deal...and the case workers are totally swamped they are not lazy because they are not there to hand you money the next day. And its tax payers that pay for this assistance I'm not trying to be rude but there seems to be a sense of entitlement here. She makes it sound like the government is a bunch of slouches who purposly make sure she is homeless. ?? At the end of the day is your job as a mom to make sure your kid is not homeless.

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