What do you do if your ex only takes the kids on HOLIDAYS?
So ever since our break-up, my ex really isnt interested in seeing the kids. BUT, when a holiday comes he nags me to get them. Since September, he has rarely seen them. He nagged me about getting them for Halloween, but we ended up having Hurricane Sandy oct 31. During that time, we were in the dark and cold with 15% electricity and only a little bit of food for 6 WHOLE DAYS because everything got ruined from not having power. I couldnt drive anywhere because there was a shortage of gas in NJ. I'm sure you guys have seen it on the news. But he didn't offer to take the kids once I told him all of this. I guess he realized his dads bday(a special occasion) was nov 2 so he took them for that day and returned them back to the dark and cold with me. After that he waited until Thanksgiving to ask to see them again and I told him NO because he wasnt concerned at all when there was an emergency and that he hadnt seen them in weeks. So he stopped, seeing them again until the weekend before Christmas only because he wanted to get them Christmas. So I let them go and on Christmas I let them go. He told me when they went that they were going to stay for a week...big LIE. My kids came back the next day because he said my son wanted to come home(hes 3). So I ended up just picking them and avoiding the argument. He hasn't seen them since.So I feel like he is using them just to be around so when people visit his house he can pretend to be a great father and so that the kids can be in the family pics. I dont think it is right at all. Now their birthdays are both coming up in a few weeks and when he asks to take them I think Im just going to tell him no again. If he wants to buy them a gift he can drop it off, say hi, but he will not just be popping up to make himself feel good. He hasn't spoken to my son since Christmas either. I mean at least if your going to be a dickhead and not spend time, at least call. But what would you guys do? Let him take them for their birthdays or not? Just want to see how others view this situation.