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how F'd up is this??

Posted by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 10:12 AM
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So on January 15th I had a nice talk with my ex. I'm still in love with him and always will be. He currently has a girlfriend. He told me he still loved me and thought about coming home a lot, but with the gf things are complicated. I didn't say anything to try to break them up, no matter how much I love him I wouldn't do that to her. So I didn't let myself get my hopes up but was happy with the thought of having my family back together someday. A week and a half later he asked gf to marry him. Guess he made his decision oh well. A few days later he tells me he meant what he said and he's still thinking??? Then why did you ask her to marry you?? I don't know the while situation but it's seems prettyF'd up! They are getting married Saturday.... Not sure what I'm asking here maybe I'll just feel better more that I got all of that out of me.... Thanks for listening
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KRIZZ25
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we always talk about "bad moms"what about "bad dads" ?
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by Platinum Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 10:13 AM
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is she prg?? thats the only reason a man would do that .or money .
steviechick
by Gold Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 10:20 AM
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Your love for your ex will fade in time.  It seems to me that your ex can't make up his mind about what he wants in life.  He chose his gf over you to begin with.  I'd be putting that in context the next time you think about the 'love' your ex has/had for you.  My ex chose to be with his mistress instead of working on our marriage.  He didn't even tell me about his affair because he was in the military and needed me for an ATM.  Found out he was into porn and has issues with actually being faithful to his new wife.  My ex is a jerk and should have been out of my life years ago. You find one day that you feel the same way I do.  If your ex truly loved you he wouldn't have cheated on you in the first place.  He's getting married.  Let him figure out his own messes from now on.  He's made plenty of them and will continue to do so. 

dragonfly.1982
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 10:22 AM
Not pregnant she has her tubes tied. Not sure about money.

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is she prg?? thats the only reason a man would do that .or money .
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conniejo75
by Bronze Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 10:25 AM
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He is stringing you along to either have u on the side or as a back up plan. Focus on the fact he lied to you and chose GF over you.
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easinpc
by Gold Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 11:34 AM

Hugs!

mytrueloveS
by Lori on Feb. 6, 2013 at 12:19 PM
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Don't get your hopes up, that man has you as a back up plan. I do that a lot with men. In time you'll get over your ex, it's time to move on.
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butcher
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 1:09 PM

 he sounds like a looser. no offense.

brieri
by Platinum Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 1:46 PM
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1 month hasn't been that long that's why and when women get into men's heads about wanting to stay together, men have a tendency to come to conclusion they really want to be in the previous relationship - in this case you (the ex.)  Don't give in to his whims and be happy where you are currently. 

mamalena137
by Bronze Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 2:00 PM
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It is f'd up, doesn't sound like he really knows what love is. If he was still thinking he wouldn't have asked her to marry him. You may always have a special place in your heart for your ex but eventually you won't love him like you used to. It sounds like he wants to keep his options open and possibly keep you on the side while he's married.

faerie75
by Ruby Member on Feb. 6, 2013 at 2:41 PM
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 sounds like hes stringing you along. keep your distance and talk onyl about the kids, to protect YOUR feelings. you are keeping your wound open.

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