Help me modify my timesharing and CS agreement!! UPDATED WITH A TWIST!
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Ex just informed me he has a job offer 3 1/2 hours away. He's been miserable at his current job, working 6 and 7 days a week, and is worried he was going to be fired in a corporate buyout anyway (restaurant industry). He's looked around here for months but no offers.
Our current agreement says he has them 2 nights a week every other week (Sunday and Monday nights) plus one flex night during the week. In reality, he's had them a lot less than that because of said job.
The new job has offered to give him every other weekend off. He's proposing we meet half way and the kids go there 2 weekends a month. I'm thinking he comes here one weekend a month and they go there one weekend? He's welcome to stay here if he wants.
Kids are 14 and 7 and very active in their activities, including weekends.
Any ideas for a good revision to the time sharing?
On CS, he'd be making almost $10K a year less. I think he should still keep the support at least at the same amount, as he will have them a lot less than the 40% on which we based that amount.
What do you think?
Thanks in advance for all replies.
Sorry--here's an update with a twist!
Ok so dx hits me with the news last night that he's moving 3 1/2 hours away and moving in with a gf I never knew existed and the kids have never met!
And he thinks it would be great if I had coffee with her today. HELP!
A couple relevants:
So my question to all you moms and stepmoms is--what is relevant to discuss at this first meeting? What do you wish you had known, said or discussed? How can we get this whole thing off on the best foot possible?
- Lurion
on Feb. 9, 2013 at 9:28 PMOoh, thanks! Great info. That's what I thought, but couldn't confirm. Someone else mentioned that he's probably made an arrangement to get part of his pay under the table. I wouldn't be surprised.
We have something that says that we are to agree on the activities and each pay half, and that they are not to miss them. So the next thing he'll do is not approve activities.
I don't want to bleed him dry. I want to be fair. I just don't think it's fair to burden me with an extra ? $200 a month or more for his move.