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So, I guess I don't have any actual, real-life friends any more...

Posted by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 12:40 AM
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They've been dropping like flies ever since I announced my pregnancy a little over a year and a half ago...  Family too, although that's not as surprising as they were never incredibly supportive to begin with.  As a grad student and single mom without a BD involved, I really don't have the time to find new friends or develop new friendships (or date at all for that matter, which I sometimes think might be kind of nice...) 

I would just like another adult to talk to once in a while...

Here's my plan (tell me if it sounds crazy):

I completely give up on the prospect of having any "real" friends.

I continue seeing this therapist I have been to a few times recently (she is a great listener, and very understanding) once every other week

I start seeing a new therapist soon, in addition to the first, just to have a different person to talk to and to get a different perspective (I will see this person on the weeks I don't see the other one)

I post to this (or other) forums when I feel like chatting / connecting / venting / etc...

That's it.  Any thoughts?

 

by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 12:40 AM
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cristalf060812
by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 12:49 AM
I know how you feel I have no real friends the one I did have up and moved to taxes.. I lost all my friends not to long after I found out I was pregnant in high school a little over 7yrs ago.. I just joined this cafe mom couple months ago.. here lately I been venting alot.. I have no one to talk to or who I can trust.. I don't go out I spend ask my time with my kids..I keep telling myself things have to get better just got to believe.. If you ever wasn't to talk you can message me..
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pianokisses
by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 2:37 AM

I think as a parent you tend to lose friends especially if they dont have kids. I have no one to hang with and if I do I have to bring my kids smh. They dont relate to anything you talk about. Ive accepted it though. I am trying to move away from everyone anyway because they all serve no purpose in my life

CaptainCookie
by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 3:54 AM

 I'm right there with you, hon. I had a pretty good amount of friends but it seems since I announced my split with the hubby, they;ve scattered. It's always nice to know who you're real friends are. Just wish I had had more real friends.

EachNewBreath
by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 5:43 AM

Try blogging! It has really helped me! And it helps to get on a blog roll so that way you can connect with other moms dealing with the same issues. 

IDK why it is people stop being our friends. Its a baby not a diease

GwennasMom
by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 12:35 PM

 Thank you for all of your replies.  I'm sorry to hear that so many others are experiencing similar situations.  I haven't tried blogging - I could see how that might be helpful, but I'm afraid I wouldn't know how to get started and don't really have the time, etc.  Any other suggestions on how people deal with feeling lonely / isolated???

efarrugia
by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 9:33 PM
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i have  handful of friends of various ages but still felt lonely. i had joined a church   a few months ago and still felt like an outsider. but then was asked to join a  group. so while  my son is in his group, i sit in mine. im making friends, who are are very supportive. just keep yourself open and new friends will come into your life. mommy and me activities are a good way to meet people.

Mommyto2LilMen
by Tina on Feb. 10, 2013 at 10:39 PM

IT's happened to me through the years :(

easinpc
by Gold Member on Feb. 11, 2013 at 4:39 PM

Welcome & hugs!!

deltathree
by Gold Member on Feb. 11, 2013 at 4:48 PM

I hear ya.  Been there & basically do the same thing for social time.  I have 1 good friend to really talk to.  so sorry - hugs.

LifeCafe42
by Nora on Feb. 11, 2013 at 11:45 PM
Welcome! I lost all of mine but 1 after I had DS I made a new friend after but that's about it
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