What kind of visitation schedule do you guys have...and what state?
I originally had sat-sun every week and we both get to see them on holidays. Now I'm going to decrease it to every other weekend and he can sort of" buy" his time back since he is only seeing them like once a month or once every two months. I think it's unfair how men can violate the order by not showing up, but the minute we don't let the kids go they try to get us in trouble. Once this is set, I'll give him like a 3 month trial and if he follows the order I will increase his time again.
But what kind of visitation schedule do you guys have and what state allows it?
I'm in NJ and I have a few friends and have been in court with fathers who get every other weekend so I'm sure it will probably be the outcome. Especially since he has been violating the order since September. It's not like I'm doing it just for the hell of it.