Just separated and filing for divorce

[Cher41]

Hi, My name is Cheri and just separated from my husband after 10 years of marriage.  Wow is this scary!!! I have this terrible feeling in my stomach that just won't go away and am trying to get over that first hurdle of moving on.

[Mamavelt]

Dear Cheri

Welcome. I hope you find support and friendship here like I have.

I am sorry you are going through this. I remember how scared/angry/hurt I was the day I filed. I literally think I was in shock the first year, i think one of the things that surprised me most was the constantly sick stomach and insomnia.

But it does get better.- just surround yourself w good friends and give yourself time to grieve, process and adjust.

Hugs!

[sid1083]

Good luck on your journey! Usually the first step is the biggest and scariest but slowly you'll gain more confidence and look back and wonder why you were worried in the first place.

[CutieCrab]

 Be strong!

[s.osborne]

 I've never been married. I was engaged for 3 years, the guy wasn't even my DS's father and we just split about 3 weeks ago. I can't imagine being married for so long and then splitting. I always thought 3 years was a long time. What happened if you don't mind me asking? You don't have to answer of course. I just think wow, 10 years. You both invested so much time, how could it have fallen apart?

[MomAmy77]

Welcome. I'm sorry u are going through this. I know how you feel. My divorce just got final Dec 5. We were married 10 years as well. It was so very hard cause he wasn't nice about things. If you need to vent, talk, cry, or ask any questions feel free to message me. Be strong

[steviechick]

Hi, Cheri and welcome to the group.

Divorce is so final.  It's like dealing with death.  You go through several phases - anger, hurt, betrayal, disgust, loneliness, self-worth, and then finally accceptance.  I went through all of these stages just shortly after I separated from my ex.  We were married for 26 years.  That's a lifetime to spend with someone.  Then one day you find out the man you loved and trusted cheated on you.  It's the worst feeling ever. 

Don't be scared.  Reach out to your atty or get legal help and get your settlement.  The feeling in your stomach is normal.  It's called grieving.  Just find some time for yourself and allow yourself to grieve.  We are all here for you.

 

[Mommyto2LilMen]

*hugs* welcome. I know it may not seem like it today, or even tomorrow, but you will make it through this. We are here for you.

[easinpc]

Hugs!

[easinpc]

Oh and welcome to our group!

[sol4J]

If you need a caring, listening ear, I know you can get advice and encouragement from one of Focus on the Family's counselors (for free) . In addition, I highly recommend that you read the book, Fearless; Imagine Your Life Without Fear by Max Lucado. I like his writings  -- they are very pleasant to read.  This one in particular helps to look at life's circumstances from a new perspective.