I'm just wondering what happens with visitation when bd lives at least 3 hours away & I am the only caregiver for DD since day 1, and her surroundings up here are farrrrrr better than down there with him. I don't trust him, his family, or his friends. Ita driving me insane to even think a judge will rule in his favor. Oh btw he has no job, no car , and lives with his mother (he's 27).
You are not guartneed sole custody. Be prepared for that. You will most likely be awarded residential custody.......if I were you I would go and take care of it now...and not leave it up to him.
That way you are more likely to get what you want...and he will have to come to your hometown for the court hearings.
Hopefully e is all talk and continue to keep her away from him and as my mom always tells me keep your nose clean :)
Quoting _AshlynNicole:
Yeah, exactly that's why I don't let him take her. Honestly I think he is all talk.
Quoting victoriangavin:
In that case I would get a lawyer and file for emergency custody... if he wants to play dirty he can kidnap the baby and unfortunatly you can't do anything without custody papers
Quoting _AshlynNicole:
:( unfortunately he is..... But we haven't been to court for anything and she has always lived with me
Quoting victoriangavin:
Is he on the bc? Have ya'll already been to court for custody and child support? has he already been awarded visitation and a schedule? If he isn't and ya'll haven't than he can kiss your ass cuz by law if he is not on the bc then there is no father and he has NO rights to her and if he does try to take her that is kidnapping
Quoting SoKamele:You are not guartneed sole custody. Be prepared for that. You will most likely be awarded residential custody.......if I were you I would go and take care of it now...and not leave it up to him.
That way you are more likely to get what you want...and he will have to come to your hometown for the court hearings.
Quoting victoriangavin:Hopefully e is all talk and continue to keep her away from him and as my mom always tells me keep your nose clean :)
Quoting _AshlynNicole:
Yeah, exactly that's why I don't let him take her. Honestly I think he is all talk.
Quoting victoriangavin:
In that case I would get a lawyer and file for emergency custody... if he wants to play dirty he can kidnap the baby and unfortunatly you can't do anything without custody papers
Quoting _AshlynNicole:
:( unfortunately he is..... But we haven't been to court for anything and she has always lived with me
Quoting victoriangavin:
Is he on the bc? Have ya'll already been to court for custody and child support? has he already been awarded visitation and a schedule? If he isn't and ya'll haven't than he can kiss your ass cuz by law if he is not on the bc then there is no father and he has NO rights to her and if he does try to take her that is kidnapping
Yes, really. Don't fool yourself into thinking you got this in the bag. You don't. Your best actions would be to go and file custody NOW....and lay it out in the paperwork and with the mediator and the judge...and documentation documentation documentation!!!!!
If BD decides to stake a serious claim....you could be in some serious trouble.
OH.....and always be nice...no matter how you feel...and try to be fair...it will look better on you....let him hang himself.
Quoting _AshlynNicole:
Really?? Even though he's done nothing for her and she's already 3?
Quoting SoKamele:You are not guartneed sole custody. Be prepared for that. You will most likely be awarded residential custody.......if I were you I would go and take care of it now...and not leave it up to him.
That way you are more likely to get what you want...and he will have to come to your hometown for the court hearings.
Lol I have no way to get into trouble and no one to do it with! My mom reminds me just about every day that I need to concentrate on my son and finishing my degree. It will keep me out of trouble and his father won't have ammo if he ever decided to pull anything! However he puts EVERYTHING on fb and I save it all for just in case :)
Quoting _AshlynNicole:
Oh yeah! Lol I couldn't get in any trouble if I wanted to, I don't have the time :)
Quoting victoriangavin:
Hopefully e is all talk and continue to keep her away from him and as my mom always tells me keep your nose clean :)
Quoting _AshlynNicole:
Yeah, exactly that's why I don't let him take her. Honestly I think he is all talk.
Quoting victoriangavin:
In that case I would get a lawyer and file for emergency custody... if he wants to play dirty he can kidnap the baby and unfortunatly you can't do anything without custody papers
Quoting _AshlynNicole:
:( unfortunately he is..... But we haven't been to court for anything and she has always lived with me
Quoting victoriangavin:
Is he on the bc? Have ya'll already been to court for custody and child support? has he already been awarded visitation and a schedule? If he isn't and ya'll haven't than he can kiss your ass cuz by law if he is not on the bc then there is no father and he has NO rights to her and if he does try to take her that is kidnapping
who moved and how long ago? you may have to meet half way or if you are the one that made the decision to move that far maybe the whole depending on what the judge says
Going back to my maiden name
- _AshlynNicole
on Feb. 16, 2013 at 10:22 PM