In the last couple of months all of a sudden my ex wanted to pick him up for his weekends more. In a way it was kind of nice to see him showing an interest and when I talked to him about the smoking he said he would keep it away from my ds. After a few of these weekends, my ds started telling me about his weekends. From what I understand my ex leaves in the morning and doesn't come home till ds is about to go to bed and during the day leaves him with some woman he lives with and the other son. But according to my ex he never leaves the house. Before this "interest" in ds started I had signed him up for sports, he started basketball a few months ago and will start soccer in a few weeks. All his games are on Saturday mornings. When my ex texts (he's not allowed to call me anymore due to a court order since he was stalking me a while after I left him) now I tell him that ds has a game on Saturday and he can pick him afterwards or drop him off at his games in the mornings so he can play. My ex's response? "Well they're going to have to change the schedule!" Because yes I can ask the whole league to change their schedule due to my ex's lack of interest in watching his son play. The response to pick him up AFTER the games? He just can't do it, he doesn't have time. Which makes me think that he really IS working and leaving my ds.
Here are my questions:
Am I a horrible mom for being relieved that now that he has the games he doesn't go to his dads that often?
Am I horrible mom for being glad that my ds sees my dad as his father figure? (and no we did nothing to encourage that, but that's the way ds sees it)