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I'm going to rip my hair out!

Posted by on Feb. 28, 2013 at 4:53 PM
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I'm contemplating getting; What to Expect The Toddler Years or that 1-2-3 whatever book because of Bratty Bella (my 2 year old). Sometimes I just don't know what to do when she becomes a Bendy Wendy when its time to get dressed ( she just goes limp and there is no hope for holding her, making her do anything or getting anything on her... its so frustrating! Its like fine go outside in 20 degree weather naked), screams like her clothes have knifes all over them stabbing her, acts like she is dying when told no, cant share, all the no's and uhhhh huhhhhh's, and screams... oh the screams are ear piercing! lol! 

Everything in the book is most likely online somewhere and more detailed but I still might get it. Bella is a good girl but when she is having hissy fit its bad! My mom and boyfriend cant believe what they are witnessing when she throw them! I look at her like wtf is wrong with you and laugh and it just makes things worse. If anything doesn't go Bella's way or is told 'no' she screams and cries so hard she is on the brink of vomiting!

When I ask people for advice and then apply it with Bella it doesn't help, I just still have a screaming little crazy person. OR when I read ‘what's happening with your toddler" and then For example, Bella knows how and when to say sorry but the thing is she will say sorry things that don't need a sorry like bumping into my leg when we are trying to both walk through a door way and she misjudges how much room there is or stepping on my foot BUT she DOESN'T say sorry for hitting/pushing/throwing or making kids cry! And then what's the result, if you don't say sorry you have to go to time out... and 10 ear piercing minuets later she says sorry. 

*sigh* I'm going to end up in an insane asylum by the time she's 3!

Oh and she's a red headed scorpio!! (see adorb pic below!)

This is essentially why I joined cafemom, so I could get help and advice from fellow mommy's

Thoughts? 

 

Posted by on Feb. 28, 2013 at 4:53 PM
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Delila12
by Bronze Member on Feb. 28, 2013 at 5:03 PM
Well she's definitely cute. LOL. Idk for advice though.
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nina.burnham89
by Member on Feb. 28, 2013 at 5:20 PM

Lol thanks! I guess thats a good thing right... she can scream her lungs out but look cute doing it? lol


Quoting Delila12:

Well she's definitely cute. LOL. Idk for advice though.



Delila12
by Bronze Member on Feb. 28, 2013 at 5:23 PM
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LOL. Right. Not every girl has that ability.

Quoting nina.burnham89:

Lol thanks! I guess thats a good thing right... she can scream her lungs out but look cute doing it? lol



Quoting Delila12:

Well she's definitely cute. LOL. Idk for advice though.




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lydi
by Lydi on Feb. 28, 2013 at 6:01 PM

 i wish i had more advise but for the getting dressed have you tried having her help pick out outfits the night before and have her choose from those in the morning.  my dd had issues deciding to the point of complete melt downs but after chosing the night before she no longer has melt downs due to that reason.  good luck.

nina.burnham89
by Member on Feb. 28, 2013 at 7:08 PM

I will try that! thanks for the tip... hopefully she will like having an option.


Quoting lydi:

 i wish i had more advise but for the getting dressed have you tried having her help pick out outfits the night before and have her choose from those in the morning.  my dd had issues deciding to the point of complete melt downs but after chosing the night before she no longer has melt downs due to that reason.  good luck.



lnk8522
by on Feb. 28, 2013 at 7:25 PM
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if she starts screaming, you can just let her scream until she gets tired of hearing herself. Or you can also put her in the shower and turn on the cool water. It'll shock her out of her fit.

The best thing you can do is be firm and be consistent. If you say you're gonna do something as a consequence to her behavior, follow through because she will not respect you otherwise.
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Robsessed98
by Anna on Feb. 28, 2013 at 7:34 PM
I would suggest the book for all moms. Each age has its own "treat" lol. You will survive it, I promise.
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faerie75
by Ruby Member on Feb. 28, 2013 at 9:22 PM
I pit mine In a hold when they tried to throw a fit. Sat down, got them on lap, wrapped my legs over theirs, held their hands down, and cupped the head under my chin to stop the head butting.
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brieri
by Platinum Member on Feb. 28, 2013 at 9:47 PM

 She is a cutey and she probably likes to play outside more than being in the house - if you have an enclosed yard where you can do that - she;ll probably get tired and want to take a nap.  Good luck.

TiredbutHappy1
by Member on Mar. 1, 2013 at 7:18 AM
Doesn't get dressed..one toy taken away for everytime I count to 10 & he wasn't putting his clothes on. Time put for bad behavior. Since she's 2. She gets 2 minutes in time out. After time out is finished ask her why she was put in time out. Then make her give you a hug and say I'm sorry. The screaming. Put her in her room and shut the door. Tell her when she is done throwing a fit and.can listen you will talk to her. Or sit down and start throwing your own fit...complete with screams and kicking the floor. Haven't seen a toddler yet that doesn't get shocked out of a tantrum quickly seeing mom throw one. Lol
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