I'm contemplating getting; What to Expect The Toddler Years or that 1-2-3 whatever book because of Bratty Bella (my 2 year old). Sometimes I just don't know what to do when she becomes a Bendy Wendy when its time to get dressed ( she just goes limp and there is no hope for holding her, making her do anything or getting anything on her... its so frustrating! Its like fine go outside in 20 degree weather naked), screams like her clothes have knifes all over them stabbing her, acts like she is dying when told no, cant share, all the no's and uhhhh huhhhhh's, and screams... oh the screams are ear piercing! lol!
Everything in the book is most likely online somewhere and more detailed but I still might get it. Bella is a good girl but when she is having hissy fit its bad! My mom and boyfriend cant believe what they are witnessing when she throw them! I look at her like wtf is wrong with you and laugh and it just makes things worse. If anything doesn't go Bella's way or is told 'no' she screams and cries so hard she is on the brink of vomiting!
When I ask people for advice and then apply it with Bella it doesn't help, I just still have a screaming little crazy person. OR when I read ‘what's happening with your toddler" and then For example, Bella knows how and when to say sorry but the thing is she will say sorry things that don't need a sorry like bumping into my leg when we are trying to both walk through a door way and she misjudges how much room there is or stepping on my foot BUT she DOESN'T say sorry for hitting/pushing/throwing or making kids cry! And then what's the result, if you don't say sorry you have to go to time out... and 10 ear piercing minuets later she says sorry.
*sigh* I'm going to end up in an insane asylum by the time she's 3!
Oh and she's a red headed scorpio!! (see adorb pic below!)
This is essentially why I joined cafemom, so I could get help and advice from fellow mommy's
Thoughts? 
The not saying sorry for purposely hurting someone... its possible she's doing what she sees. im sure you've bumped into people, probably even her, and said sorry. But has she seen anyone go clock another person then apologize for it? Doubtful. You should at least take it well that she is doing what she sees and its polite to start with.
I typically let her scream until she is sick of hearing her own voice which seems to work most of the time... after 20 min lol. Thanks for the advice but I don't want to traumatize her into being scared of water by sticking her in there with cold water.
I'm always firm with her but laughing tends to slip in and it doesn't help because she just looks ridiculous sometimes.
I know she respects me.
Quoting lnk8522:
if she starts screaming, you can just let her scream until she gets tired of hearing herself. Or you can also put her in the shower and turn on the cool water. It'll shock her out of her fit.
The best thing you can do is be firm and be consistent. If you say you're gonna do something as a consequence to her behavior, follow through because she will not respect you otherwise.
Im so glad I asked café mom because my friends said nahh you dint need a book! So it seems like books books books is my answer :D thanks so much! Bella and I will head over to the book store this weekend to get some of the books you guys have recommended.
I hope I survive lol! Im going to end up at a mental institute!
Quoting Robsessed98:
I would suggest the book for all moms. Each age has its own "treat" lol. You will survive it, I promise.
OHH MY GOSHH! My babysitter does that ALL the time, when she did it the first time to her kid I was like *GASP* what are you doing?!?!?!?! But it worked she held her little boys arms legs and talked to him calmly and he calmed down after 30 seconds. It was magic!
I've tried doing it but I feel really really bad hold bella so tight, almost like she's being hurt and I an avoiding any physical pain.
Quoting faerie75:
I pit mine In a hold when they tried to throw a fit. Sat down, got them on lap, wrapped my legs over theirs, held their hands down, and cupped the head under my chin to stop the head butting.
Thanks!!! She's a doll! She loves being outside and plays outside all the time. My boyfriend got her a trampoline and she LOVES it and always wants to jump! I always encourage it right before bed *slowly rubs hands* "yes bella bounce your heart out until you are tired >:D
Quoting brieri:
She is a cutey and she probably likes to play outside more than being in the house - if you have an enclosed yard where you can do that - she;ll probably get tired and want to take a nap. Good luck.
I put her in time out for 2 min all the time but when 2 min is up and she is still screaming I leave her ther until she calsm down and then she comes out of time out and says sorry.... I just wish it didn't take 20min for her to calm down.
LOLOLOLOLLL "Or sit down and start throwing your own fit...complete with screams and kicking the floor. Haven't seen a toddler yet that doesn't get shocked out of a tantrum quickly seeing mom throw one. Lol" that's AWESOME! The kiddo probably looked at you like ‘you look weird/silly/dumb doing that'
As for the clothes, Ive started giving her options like other moms have suggested and its REALLY working :D
Quoting TiredbutHappy1:
Doesn't get dressed..one toy taken away for everytime I count to 10 & he wasn't putting his clothes on. Time put for bad behavior. Since she's 2. She gets 2 minutes in time out. After time out is finished ask her why she was put in time out. Then make her give you a hug and say I'm sorry. The screaming. Put her in her room and shut the door. Tell her when she is done throwing a fit and.can listen you will talk to her. Or sit down and start throwing your own fit...complete with screams and kicking the floor. Haven't seen a toddler yet that doesn't get shocked out of a tantrum quickly seeing mom throw one. Lol
The only problem I have with putting her in a room when's she's having a tantrum is, I don't want her getting hurt while she is in there alone... I just leave her in the pack and play but the other day she was SO worked up she literally flipped out of it like a gymnast I was flabbergasted!
I never looked at the situation that way! That makes me feel little bit better that she might be polite! A nice change of pase for Bella I suppose.
Quoting quickbooksworm:
I put mine in his room with the door closed when he threw tantrums.
The not saying sorry for purposely hurting someone... its possible she's doing what she sees. im sure you've bumped into people, probably even her, and said sorry. But has she seen anyone go clock another person then apologize for it? Doubtful. You should at least take it well that she is doing what she sees and its polite to start with.
First of all, take a deep breath! Tots are especially cute at this age because they are so horribly behaved! It's hard to throw advice when I don't know your daughter, but I will give my impression.
She's only 2. She's still, in essence, an infant! The fact that she says "sorry" when she bumps into you is encouraging. It means that she recognizes boundaries. Kids at this age (and up to age 4 sometimes) rarely play together. they play side by side because they really don't understand the concept of sharing.
I like Lydi's idea about letting her choose her outfits. Just limit her choices so she doesn't get overwhelmed.
When she starts having a melt down do your very, very best to use a neutral voice and keep your face stony. And time outs should be limited to 1 minute per age of the child. 10 mins is waaaayyyyy too long.
Watch Supernanny & America's Supernanny. Those women rock!
Quoting nina.burnham89:OHH MY GOSHH! My babysitter does that ALL the time, when she did it the first time to her kid I was like *GASP* what are you doing?!?!?!?! But it worked she held her little boys arms legs and talked to him calmly and he calmed down after 30 seconds. It was magic!
I've tried doing it but I feel really really bad hold bella so tight, almost like she's being hurt and I an avoiding any physical pain.
Quoting faerie75:
I pit mine In a hold when they tried to throw a fit. Sat down, got them on lap, wrapped my legs over theirs, held their hands down, and cupped the head under my chin to stop the head butting.
My STBXH
- nina.burnham89
on Feb. 28, 2013 at 4:53 PM