Hello group. This is my first support group ever, but I'm at a breaking point. I have a 2 year old boy and a 4 year old boy. My 4 year old is autistic. I am a single mom trying my best to raise 2 boys by myself. For the past week my 4 year old has been having a lot of behavioral tantrums. I just don't know what to do. I have taken away toys , limited television, I've ignored the bad behavior and rewarded good behavior but nothing is working. The main issue I have is getting him on the bus in the morning..because he goes to a special needs school out of his area the bus picks him up at 7 am. So I have to wake him up at 6:15am. As an adult I don't even like getting up that early so I can imagine how hard it is for him to get up. He refuses to get on the bus to the point where he goes limp in the middle of the street , where I have to pick up him a literally put on the bus in his seat. It breaks my hurt to walk off that bus while he is crying but I don't know what to do. I battle everyday in my head is he trying to tell me something as to why he doesn't want to get on the bus? How do they treat my son when I get off that bus and the matron ha to deal with a crying 4 year old?
Then when I speak to their father ( lives in Boston) he has no idea what I go through on a daily basis....there is only so much you can explain to someone you doesn't live the with an autistic child for them to understand what you are going through. He tells me oh punish him put him in his room etc. but of for my son that doesn't work because he likes to be alone. His social skills are one of his main issues. It Ryan to explain that you can't do the same punishments that you would do with a normal pre-schooler.
Im just feeling defeated and frustrated. I decided to join a support group to see if anybody has some advice... I am normally a very private person but I am looking for any help at all. HELP!!!!