I know that's a rather vague title for my post, I'm sure we all deal with lots of that here... I was unsure how to categorize my rant. Here it goes:
My daughter's father and I are not on good terms, which is not my doing. He simply refuses to get along with me. Despite out differences, I still encourage him to have a relationship with his daughter (who is 12 now). As a result, our daughter is starting to see him for who he really is. She is beginning to realize that he is a real person with faults and it's disillusioning.
I've repeatedly asked him not to discuss personal/private matters with her. She doesn't need to be aware of our personal issues nor our financial situations. Yet he continues to do so and it's giving his daughter a poor opinion of him. He vents his frustrations around her, thinking she'll be sympathetic and take his side. It really bothers her that he never has anything nice to say to her and that he's always bad mouthing me.
I told her that she has a right not to speak to him if she doesn't want to. So she ignores his phone calls and refuses to speak to him anymore. Yet he continues to barrage her with phone calls and text messages on a regular basis begging her to talk to him. I asked him to stop and give her some space, I even tried explaining things to him and he wouldn't listen.
He's convinced I've poisoned her against me and I'm preventing any contact between them. He even went so far as to call the police to do a "welfare check" on me. The police found nothing wrong. When I explained the situation they suggested I file a report. Apparently what he is doing is considered harrassment. I could go so far as to place an 'order of protection' on my daughter if necessary. I was hoping it wouldn't come to that but he won't listen to reason.
Am I being unreasonable or is this grounds for harrassment?
Thou art thy mother's glass, and she in thee
Calls back the lovely April of her prime.