Crazy ex wants custody - I know it's long BUT LADIES...advice PLEASE!!
I am going to try to make this as short as possible. My exboyfriend (of six months) is crazy. I filed a restraining order against them and they issued me a temp one for 3 months. My lawyer told the judge that I would be absent on the next court date to extend it because I would be further along in my pregnancy and she was ok with that but said that I HAD to give my ex updates on my pregnancy during that time. When the time came to go back, even though I wanted to be there, I wasn't, there was a new judge and he threw out the restraining order because of my absence. I was so pissed, mostly at myself for not listening to my gut but instead listening to my parents and my lawyer. Anyway, ex did leave me alone for a few months but just recently started contacting me along with his mother. They are calling my parents, my ex boyfriends, my friends, my old work - everybody! He is bipolar and he hit me more than once, forced himself on me, and was emotionally abusive as well. Him and his mother harrassed me saying things like, "we're gonna take your house, we''re taking that baby from you, you're an alcoholic, blah blah blah." I am not an alcoholic but in the few months he and I were together, YES we did drink (we are adults) and one time he took pictures of me when I had passed out drunk and he is trying to use those against me to say that I'm not a good mom.One of his friends told me a long time ago that he had been in gay porn under a different name so I looked him up and THERE HE IS! He was doing gay porn all the way up until mid January on top of being on a gay webcam site and it is all over the internet! Whenever he logs on and does a video, there is a time stamp so I have been keeping records of all of it. His mother just now texted me and said that if we do not let him see the baby and have shared custody they will be takin us to court and asking for reimbursement for legal fees. Even though I know he is the father, I will still not be putting his name on the birth certificate so he has to prove paternity first. I DO NOT want him having shared custody especially because of his history of abuse, he was in prison (which I didn't know until later - one of the many reasons we broke up) for drug trafficking, he's bipolar, and he's doing gay porn. I have said I will allow supervised visitation but THAT IS IT! I do not want my daughter alone with someone who does sex work out of their home! Disgusting. I need to know... what do you ladies think my chances are of getting full custody and him having supervised visitation. PLEASE...ANY ADVICE or personal stories. would be greatly appreciated