I am a single mother of a 4 year old who's father refuses to be apart of her life. How should I deal with the questions that my childr asks about her father? I'm really not sure what to say to her or how to explain things. Right now I just smile and change the subject but I know that it is something that I need to address. I think that my daughter at this stage, has created a "fantasy dad" (what she thinks he's like, or would be if he were around) and I know that she's searching for that relationship but I don't know exactly how to talk to her about it. We've gone through a stage where she'd call evey man she saw dad/daddy and I've been able to break her out of it, however not too long ago she's asked her paternal grandmother's boyfriend if he could be her dad. This of course broke her grandmothers heart hearing this and knowing that her son is not stepping up to the plate to be in her life. If anyone who reads this has gone through this or is going through this and have a positive way of dealing with the situation please leave some advice for me. I don't want to bash him or put any type of negative thoughts in her head about him. I want to teach her to have love in her heart for him regardless of him not being there for her. Any positve advice would be most helpful!