I believe avoiding the individual will keep me safe, don't believe he has changed and is a real sociopath, so many lies that could never be summarized. I don't argue with him in front of the kids, he has a poor history of visitation with the kids and all of this makes up who this individual is.
In court, the judge who should be neutral and his lawyer make comments that they can't understand how I don't want to communicate with him, he 'would do anything to communicate with her', how I should 'do it for the kids'.
My question, if you were in my place, do you ever forget? I think I would have to forget a horrible past, ignore my gut instinct and live in fear that something is going to happen. The courts are not inclined to consider abuse, the thought is, that's the past, but it isn't. It's who this individual is and unsupervised visitation is an example of how violence is ignored by courts.
If you communicate with someone who was violent, what did you need to do and how do you stay safe? Any positive suggestions would be great.