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Dating while separated

Posted by on Mar. 14, 2013 at 9:25 AM
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Dating is nothing like it was when I was in my twenties.    Now it seems that as soon as the spouse moves out, some paperwork is filled out and they announce they are separated and headed to divorce the dating starts.  I met this guy and we have really seemed to have hit it off.  I'm divorced, he's not (his wife ) lives in another state but is announcing that she's moving back to the same town.   He refers to her as his ex and when questioned said that they are staying married for financial reasons and the college funds of the kids.  The divorce paperwork would be filed when he decides to get married again.  Anyone else find themselves in this kind of dilema?

by on Mar. 14, 2013 at 9:25 AM
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virginiamama71
by Carrie on Mar. 14, 2013 at 9:49 AM
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 I would not get into anything with someone who was not divorced.

Financial reasons if she is working she can take care of herself, and he can maintain financial support on his children thru child support.

if she is not working she can get a job or he can maintain financial support on her thru alimony.

The college funds can still remain without them being married.

brieri
by Platinum Member on Mar. 14, 2013 at 2:39 PM

 Hi and welcome to the group.

Run away from him as fast as you can. 

easinpc
by Gold Member on Mar. 14, 2013 at 2:51 PM

I won't date anybody who's divorce is not final.

faerie75
by Ruby Member on Mar. 14, 2013 at 3:07 PM

 no. i wouldnt date him, its not my best interest.

Mommyto2LilMen
by Tina on Mar. 14, 2013 at 3:11 PM
I wouldnt date anyone married, separated or not.
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conniejo75
by Bronze Member on Mar. 14, 2013 at 3:13 PM
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Staying married for financial reasons is one of the oldest lines in the book.
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queenb87
by Member on Mar. 14, 2013 at 3:16 PM
I would love to get a divorce right now, but I can't because the state I live in says as long as the wife is pregnant they are stuck in marriage until the baby is born. My boyfriend understands all of this, since I've known him 11 years and he is my best friends in life. But I have to say unless there was a really good reason for them to still be married then I wouldn't be in a relationship with him.
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LifeCafe42
by Nora on Mar. 14, 2013 at 4:03 PM
Sounds fishy
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Pink.Sunshine
by on Mar. 14, 2013 at 7:00 PM
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For me, I am not even thinking about dating until after everything is finalized and even then, I want to enjoy being single for a while before I ever decide to date again.

Robsessed98
by on Mar. 14, 2013 at 7:38 PM
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Heard that story more than once and its ended up a lie every time. I would steer clear and tell him to call when he can show you papers that have been filed.
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