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for all the single moms "doing what need to do to make it by and survive"

Posted by on Mar. 16, 2013 at 7:41 PM
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hi i am in desperate need of someone to talk to who is kinda in same situaiton i am in . living with parent, no job , no ged or hard to find job , how do u get by ? if every email you get from applying for jobs is sorry dont meet requirments , only job can seem to get is escorting or dancing ( stripping) ..any one out there dances ?  i dont know if i can make it , theres times just wanna give up all together feeling my child can do better with better family , but then ill cry and say i dont know what id do without my baby, im depressed have anxiety only had job once nd i just turned 21 , i just dont know what to do .. where are my stripper friends!!  email me ajrbad1@gmail.com 

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sandrabrean
by on Mar. 16, 2013 at 7:58 PM
Am kind of in the same situation right now........just moved to a new city,no job no much friends around
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armyvet06
by Ashley on Mar. 16, 2013 at 8:05 PM
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Get your GED. I have mine. The test is not really that hard. See if your parents can help you with it. And try to go back to school.
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mollymae09
by on Mar. 16, 2013 at 8:07 PM
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I work overnights at Walmart. Keep looking. Be open to whatever shift (nights often make more money too). Finish your schooling and keep pushing.
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Pink.Sunshine
by on Mar. 16, 2013 at 8:10 PM
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I'm looking too and it's very discouraging. But all I can say is don't give up. I personally am not going to go as far as stripping. I'll get a Certificate or Degree for College to improve my employability before I'd look to make money with my body. I've never been comfortable with that and if you are or other ladies are that's fine. It's just not for me. Besides, you can't strip forever. Then what will you have? The same thing you have now. No employability, skills etc. The best thing you can do is see about getting into a trade school focused on maybe business, or whatever the field is you're applying for and see if that helps you to get a job. I have a lot of work experience and I'm finding it a bit difficult. I'm not going to give up though because I don't have a choice. I have to get a job and I believe I will. Think positive even when it seems bleak.

mz23
by Bronze Member on Mar. 16, 2013 at 8:50 PM
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Im kinda in same situation. No job but have AA, live with parents. I'm trying to get in a nursing program just finishing up a few prereqs. I get so discouraged and depressed. You gotta come up with q goal and dont let nothing stop you. Do what you have to and get your ged. Go to community college. Keep looking for a job. I know i feel like a loser that no one wants me. But your parents are willing to help you to get on your feet. That's a blessing some people have no one. Dont give up, your baby loves you and you will be able to fully take care of him or her one day. Im in same bout, you can msg me anytime yiu want. Dont give up, keep pushing!
brandi0o
by on Mar. 16, 2013 at 9:58 PM
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Ok, I had my daughter when I was 18 and will tell you without an education or trade you will always struggle. Of your family is supporting you now take the steps to get you GED and go to college or a trade school. You can get grants and such that will cover the coat of your schooling and you can make both of your lives better. It's REALLY hard being young and a parent bc you are going through a transition stage in your life that you can't work out like a childless person your age can. However, youay get frustrated at times but the end result will be 100% worth it. You have options, take advantage of them!
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sid1083
by Silver Member on Mar. 16, 2013 at 10:24 PM
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Focus on getting your GED first and foremost. If you decide to stick with school, you can always see if you qualify for work study as well, not only for cash but also for work experience.
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virginiamama71
by Carrie on Mar. 16, 2013 at 10:28 PM

Go for your GED and babysit while you study for it.

 

ghostcat90
by Member on Mar. 16, 2013 at 10:48 PM
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Don't worry about a college education, but do try to get your GED.  I have three degrees and quite frankly feel that going to college was the biggest mistake I ever made, all of the jobs I can find keep telling me they can't afford me...I keep telling them I make minimum wage, I'm sure they can :-).  That said, instead of stripping, maybe look at getting your certifications (cpr, minor first aid, etc), and see about picking up a couple of babysitting things?  Check out Care.com. 

Few things about hunting for a job...1) dress the part...it does NOT matter how the rest of the employees are dressed, show up in no less than business casual (black slacks, pumps (NO BOOTS or "hooker" shoes) or flats, a nice, non-revealing shirt, and put your hair up nice, toss on some make up but don't go overboard, go natural).  2) Go to your local career center and get some help with your resume.  Do not focus on what you lack, make what you have shine.3) It is illegal for an employer to ask about your family status, do NOT mention you have a kid and remove all kids stuff from your car.  4) the interview starts the minute you pull onto the property. (I failed at this one, showed up at an interview in a convertible, hair flying...spent 10 minutes in front of the room they were doing interviews in untangling my hair!).  5) Take that minimum wage job that you really don't want because it's easier to find a job when you have a job.

shelly92
by on Mar. 17, 2013 at 12:48 AM

i dont hve much of a parent guidance never relly have . was more hey can i get money , sure. and that its . never really stayed in school last time probally went and made it a full month was 3rd or 4 th grade . i have a learning problem i think and dont understand very well . and can b smart but cannot focus and tried ged classes around here and wasnt really classes was more like how school was hand u paper tell u to do it and ask for help theyll attempt to help then say figure out on own lol so its  a get a no where sitation .. and im 21 with a 3 yr old :/ 

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