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Sick of living with my parents

Posted by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 8:55 PM
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Im so sick of living with my parents. Ive been in their home now for nearly 18 months...all of my stuff is in storage except my clothes..my son has a mattress, some toys and clothes..and the rest of his stuff is also in storage...I feel like Im stuck..there is no where for me to go, I can't afford a place to live...the one hope I had of having a place to live...has a wait list and there are like 25 people infront of me on that list. I have no privacy, no personal space and I can't even bring friends over...and I can never make plans unless a family member can babysit...and when I do make plans, my family always has something to say about it as if Im not allowed to have some type of social life.

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tottaxi
by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 8:59 PM

Living with parents always feels like a step backwards.  It's hard on everyone involved.

Do you work?

conniejo75
by Bronze Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 8:59 PM
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That's what happens when u move back home :( luckily I never had to.
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mag12305cmg
by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 9:06 PM

Yes, I work 40 hours a week...Im literally on the run from 6am-6pm Mon-Thurs (7pm on Friday) (from the time I have to get up and get going until I get home from work). Ive been at my job almost a year and I have a promotion coming in June...but it still won't be enough for me to live off of..I am not factoring in any type of child support since that is never a guarentee.

virginiamama71
by Carrie on Mar. 19, 2013 at 9:08 PM
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Are you working?

I would take advantage of this time and go back to school if you are not already enrolled, if working save as much as I can, than once you are ready to go out on your own, you will be stable and may not have to come back home.

Than you can do all the things you want to enjoy in your own place. 

Oliviasmom72
by Silver Member on Mar. 19, 2013 at 9:12 PM
Well get a full time job and start saving to move out. Your parents are nice to let you stay there. If you don't like it then leave? File for child support. Unless you are wanting sec 8 why would there be a waiting list? You can also look for a roommate. Have you worked and saved any money at all?
michiganmom5150
by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 9:12 PM
I'm in the same boat, so I feel you. I'm currently looking for a new job. I work full-time, but it's half hour away and gas is eating up 1/4 of my pay. Luckily my parents let my bf come over and I live in the finished basement with the kids and I have everything except a kitchen down here. 2 br, a bath, and a living room. I have some privacy, and my parents travel a lot, so I get the house to myself a lot. I am saving $ to buy a house, but I need a better salary to afford a mortgage. All my stuff is in storage as well. Got a bad deal when I divorced. It sucks ass. My mom wasn't speaking to me for 2 days because I didn't come home Saturday night. Kids were gone, and I went to the casino with bf and his mom. We came home at 8 am. I am 31...tired of this sh*t.
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mag12305cmg
by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 9:18 PM

The housing I was looking at was income based....and it is the only place like it in the whole town...everywhere else is section 8 (which they say I make too much money)..they don't factor in that $200 a paycheck pays for insurance b/c well, I can't go without and make too much for medicaid..yes I do plan to go for child support when things start rolling, but seeing a lawyer takes money...money I don' t have...I only have $500 in savings...and yes I live here but I also pay bills in this house and buy food in this house, so Im not living for free which makes it impossible to save much of any money.

virginiamama71
by Carrie on Mar. 19, 2013 at 9:36 PM
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I would sell the stuff in storage, and the monthly amount put towards storage can be put into savings each month, along with how much money you get from selling the stuff.

Once you get a new place you can find alot of items for free on your local freecycle or Craigslist. 

For saving on meals can everyone in the home put money towards the groceries and prepare meals together instead of everyone buying their own food, this will help add some more money to your savings. 

emdizzle64
by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 9:39 PM
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I totally agree with this!!

There are like grants or somethign someones was telling me about for single mothers. They can help you with child care also. You should look into it! 


Quoting virginiamama71:

Are you working?

I would take advantage of this time and go back to school if you are not already enrolled, if working save as much as I can, than once you are ready to go out on your own, you will be stable and may not have to come back home.

Than you can do all the things you want to enjoy in your own place. 


 

mag12305cmg
by on Mar. 19, 2013 at 9:49 PM

Im not selling the stuff in storage...I dont actually pay for the storage fee, the ex pays for it as his stuff is in there too so its not out of my pocket. A lot of stuff I have in storage can not be replaced, it was bought when we lived in Japan and we have already agreed to what is mine and what is his when things are separated. Selling that stuff is temporary money...my mom and I both go in on buying food for the house and share the responsibility of making meals (and we coupon). Before my ex got out of the service we actually had everything (and how there are bills that have to be taken care of, I can't risk them not getting paid b/c not paying them could cause me to lose my job), he gave it all up and that is when things fell apart, he lost all motivation to better himself and make sure he could take care of his family, he refuses to get help and go to counseling for his problems.

I actually have a degree, but due to medical problems i had to give up my dream and find a different dream, getting another degree isn't going to change my new path as its not necessary to go up in the company I work for.

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